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Submitted by LMR120 on Tue, 05/25/2010 - 10:21am

So after posting something on someone elses blog I thought I would post a new one. Did any of you have children around the age of 40? If so, do you think it was a good idea? would you do it again? I ask because I am 27, I have a 6 year old daughter and my BF has three kids 13, 5, 3. With all the drama going on with the BMs and CS. I have said to him that I am not sure that I never want another child and that if I did I would want to have it after the kids are grown. What do you guys think about that? pros/cons?

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Submitted by PoisonApples on Tue, 05/25/2010 - 10:39am

I had my first at age 23 and my 4th at age 46.

There are pros and cons to both.

I definitely had more energy to chase after them at 23 BUT I have much more patience now and I don't get as worried or worked up about things as I did back then.

I definitely ENJOY my child more now than I did back then, probably because I've been through it all and I don't worry and fret over all the little things. I KNOW that I can do this successfully and I'm very confident about my parenting.

I'm 49 now and my youngest is 3. I'm a very 'young' 49 though, I'm very active and don't feel my age at all. I sometimes worry that age will suddenly catch up with me and that when she's 10 I may be arthritic and ready to be put out to pasture. I don't expect that will happen but I guess we have to worry about SOMETHING, don't we?

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Submitted by LMR120 on Tue, 05/25/2010 - 10:43am

That makes me happy to hear the PA. I am in the military so right now with all thats going on in the world I dont want to bring another child into the world to leave behind for 8 month every other year. On top of all the drama with BF BM. I thought along the same lines as you just said. I think I would have more patience when I am old and that I would be able to enjoy being a mohter more. Not that I dont love it to death already. Thanks for the input.

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Submitted by stepoff on Tue, 05/25/2010 - 11:56am

I just had my 2nd at 40. He's 3 months old. I like that I waited. Got my wild side out of me while I was younger, and finally settled down. Like PA, I don't feel my age. Also like PA, I have more patience now than I did when younger. Also, we're more financially stable at this point. Pros and cons to every situation, yes.

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Submitted by Hopingforthebest on Tue, 05/25/2010 - 5:30pm

LMR,
I just had my first child at 38 and would love to have another at 40 but we will see. I always planned on having kids earlier but it wasn't in the cards for me then I guess. Sometimes I am very tired as I also work full time but feel much more mature now. Plus like other poster I have a great job now and feel grateful that I will be able to afford to do many fun things with him. Even on my most tired days I would do it all again in a heartbeat he is my little blessing!

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Submitted by stepmom2one on Tue, 05/25/2010 - 6:06pm

My MIL had her last child at age 43. As her youngest graduates elementary school she is very sad....she enjoys children so much (they have 12 total).

She doesn't regret it at all. It all depends on the person.