no vacation for sd
talked to bb again today and she told she wasn't bringing sd on thursday for our three-week vacation b/c she didn't want her to go with me. i asked her why and she said because sd doesn't want to spend time with me, she wants to spend it with dh...so why doesn't dh get his three weeks then? yeah, can you say contradiction? it just wears me out; that's why by the time i post on here, i'm so over it i don't disclose very much. the bottom line is that it's our vacation time and she has no say what dh wants to do with her. so she would rather have dh put sd in childcare every single day than go with me to the beach. and she was sure to remind that i have no rights, which i said was not true because i have rights being dh's wife. meaning i can take her places if it's ok with dh. but it's just not worth it. dh wants to file an affadavit but i'm leaving next friday, and to tell you the truth, i'm a little relieved because now i can just relax and not deal with any of this. plus my younger sis is coming and we can party down! heehee. my thing is why is she always breaking what is supposed to be our court-ordered times? and the reason she gets away with it is because dh and i are so tired of driving 50 miles away to go to court. so i guess we will just have to pick our battles. she says one thing, that she wants dh to spend time with sd but at the same time she is doing everything in her power to stop us from doing just that! and she shucks sd off to her estranged husband's parents' house on the weekends she keeps sd from us! some mom!
anywho, enough about crazy, vindictive, sorry bb. i'm going to the beach and like i told her, i was only thinking of sd, but now i can think about myself!!!!!
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have a great weekend!
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Sad for SD
But you did your best. Hope you have a great time.
~Evil
Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius
HAVE FUN
I'm sorry for your SD but you can't help it that BM is a witch with a capital B! Have fun with your sister, be safe, and drink a margarita for me
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Selfishness is no excuse
NCP should have rights too! This bm sounds like the bm I have had to deal with...when DH was allowed to see his ss , bm would'nt even let ss come over if If it was going to be me watching him for even an hour. Did BM even take into consideration what sd wanted? Maybe sd wanted to go to beach with you...The jealousy and vengefulness these bm's exhibit hurt noone but the children involved...pure selfishness..Anyway, enjoy your vacation, you desearve it!!!!!!!
Here is a Question
If DH was in the military and had joint custody and there was no way for the skid to get to his mother wouldn't the child have to stay with SM while he is away? I know my husband told me if he got called away skids would stay with me for a year. I was told there was nothing BM can do. The kids would not do well going to a school in another country that has school all year long. All court cases would have to wait until BF returned from his Army obligations
If this is the case then why is it not ok for SM to take Skid away on a vacation? Just wondering why the courts have such double standards.
Technically it is absolutly fine.
NCP should have rights too! Unless their divorce decree states specifically that sd is to remain in DH care at all times during visitation, then when DH has visitation he has every right to deem who his daughter is with and where she goes. Some divorce decrees state that parent with custody( this includes the parent with visitation, as that parent has custody during that time period)must notify the other parent when taking child out of state. If this is the case with your DH, he can notify bm of sd going on vacation with you and there isnt a damn thing bm can do as long as it is DH time with sd. BM is just being vindictive and quite possibly in contempt if she does not deliver sd to DH for his court ordered visitation.
the only thing is
that dh can't go to court because the only time they have these cases is mondays. he just started with the post office and monday is his route day. i want bb to be held accountable but at the same we can't jeopardize his new job just so we can go to court every other week, you know? so i guess since this is our first summer visitation, we will just forfeit it. i don't see any other way. and sometimes it's just not worth the hassle of dealing with bb.