DH sides with SD20
DH made a decision to bring SD20 over this past weekend w/o even asking me! I was/am FURIOUS! I do not get along with her due to plenty of disrespect around the holidays & in general to both of us. As it turns out, she showed up in my kitchen Sat nite & I told her that it was completely awkward ..she goes why?? I told her cuz she's been so disrespectful. DH was standing there the whole 1/2 minute this happened. DH didnt try to sit us down & talk it thru or nothing. Now, DH claims that we have no problems but we arent even talking to each other & I believe he hates me almost as much as I hate him. Hate is the exact word I want to use. Now, he is walking around with this cheap indian bracelet SD20 gave him & she continues to text him every 5 minutes all day & nite. I am sooo close to calling a lawyer,but want to stand my ground & stay in my beautiful home where I belong. Suggestions???
- livinthedream's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
Okay, first, remember to
Okay, first, remember to breathe. Was it clear to DH that SD was not to be at your house without your knowledge? I ask because my SS and my BD show up at my place periodically and it's no problem, but then DH and I have reasonably cordial relationships with both.
The texting would drive me nuts, especially if it interrupted my conversation with DH or my sleep.
From day one we've had the
From day one we've had the steparents rights on the fridge & it was our firm agreement that I have a decision about who comes over to our home. He didnt follow that agreement NOR did he care about how I felt about her coming over. He claimed she jumped in the car since she was once again argueing with BM. Our biggest problems in our marriage have been him putting SD20 above our marriage agreements or to be more exact...that I have a DECISION in all matters being financial, who comes over & all the other steparent rights!!!
Then your DH is a dope and he
Then your DH is a dope and he broke the agreement the two of you had. And, yes, I'd be mad too. Now he's acting childish--like he and SD are in the same "club" and you're not allowed in. (I didn't stand for that when I was 8 and sure as hell wouldn't stand for it now.) If she truly did just jump in the car and he didn't know she was coming, then he couldn't have asked you. But he could have gone with the SD somewhere else or, at the very least, apologize to you.
I'm sure he feels like he wants to see his daughter whenever he can. And I get that's not your objection. Your DH has to respect that it's your house too.
I hope the two of you can find a calm rational moment to talk about the stepparent rights that you thought you had agreed on.
So you and your DH agreed
So you and your DH agreed that she wouldn't be allowed in your home anymore and he didn't even tell SD that? He should have told her about it when it was decided and when she asked why, your DH should have explained it to her so it's fresh in her mind. I think your DH flubbed on this one.
LOL crayon you have some A+
LOL crayon you have some A+ responses! Thank you for helping me to laugh during the day, it is the best medicine.