I've seen a couple posts on here about the petnames fathers give their daughters, and I thought I would share some of my experiences.

I am a SM and a SD. I had an experience when I was 15 that still kind of irks me to this day. One night, I was having a conversation with my dad and SM about the girl who was my best friend at the time; she was a couple years older than me and had been doing a lot of drugs, ended up stealing money from me and threatened me when I confronted her about it. It was the last time I ever spoke to her. I felt extremely hurt and betrayed by her actions, but mostly because she had changed into an awful person and I knew I would never get my best friend back. In the midst of this conversation, I started crying and hugged my dad, and he said "I'm so sorry, sweetie."

At that moment, my SM immediately intervened about how she HATED it when he called me the same pet names he used for her. And then she asked me, "Doesn't it seem weird to you that he uses the same petnames for you that he uses for me, his PARTNER?" And then they proceeded to argue about it. I just remember feeling extremely hurt that she would start an argument with him when I was trying to confide into the both of them about something emotionally painful for me, over something so petty. A couple days later she told me that I wouldn't understand her feelings or experiences because I wasn't in her position.

Well, here I am. A SM to two girls, SD11 and SD16. Over the years, I have definitely realized that being a SM is EXTREMELY difficult. However, I still don't understand the issue with pet names. DH uses many different petnames for them, like sweetie, honey, etc. He calls me sweetie and honey all the time. I see those types of petnames as endearing names that work for spouses, friends, children, etc. and it has never bothered me. In fact, I often call my stepdaughters by certain pet names, some of which I also call my DH.

I'm not trying to point fingers at anybody, but I am curious about this. What are some of your experiences?