So the latest fun and games from SD15 is this. I bought her a phone that she really wanted, it cost $75 out of pocket plus a 2 year contract. About six months after she got it, she started mentioning how it was junk and she would like a cooler phone, but I said no. She eventually started doing things with the phone that I didn't like, such as calling me names on her FB account and having a relationship with a boy that is 5 yrs older, so I restricted some of the features (no internet, can't text past 9pm on school nights, no calls after 9pm on school nights except for BM and DH). She was obviously ticked about this. So then, about a week ago, the phone mysteriously turns up "lost". It is supposedly in my house, but SD15 can't find it despite the fact that we live in a 1500 square foot home and she doesn't go to the upstairs level. DH tells me that she has looked for it and can't find it.

So she goes to her aunt, the same lovely folks that have been posting threats on FB to vandalize my home, etc, and gets the aunt to buy her a new phone. The catch is that because I reported the threats, the aunt is pissed at me and says that DH and I cannot have the number to the new phone. (The part she hasn't thought about is that if she wants a ride home from school or needs to contact DH, she can't now.) Of course SD15 now has a new phone (like she wanted) and access to do whatever she wants on the phone. Convenient, huh?

So I get a call from a local pawn shop confirming whether I had given permission for someone to sell a phone that is in my name. I said no, and didn't get much other info because I know darn well who is trying to sell my phone. If SD15 didn't want the phone, she could have given it back to me because it is nicer than mine and I would have liked to use it for mine.

So I tell DH that I either want the phone or to be compensated for the phone so that I can use the money to get myself and DH new phones and drop SD15 from the plan since she has her new phone. He gets ticked and it becomes all me being a bitch (I hold a grudge, and this girl has treated me like crap for a long time). Poor princess lost her phone, those things happen, and we can't dare to ask BM's family for a way to contact SD15, blah blah blah.

I don't think it's fair that she just played us, again. My stress level is through the roof, I'm actually getting panic attacks due to the actions of BM's family. This is just too much. I want to make 3 demands:

1. I need the phone or $75 by the end of the week.
2. SD15 can't bring the phone to my home, because I know that BM's family will find some way of accusing me of losing/stealing/etc it.
3. I don't want to pick up SD15 from school anymore, she can walk, because I have no way to get a hold of her and find out when/where to pick her up.

Does this sound fair? Legal advice or thoughts, anyone? What do I do now? I'm so tired of being the b*tch in the family because I don't think it's OK to be treated like that.