Did you ever feel this way when you were pregnant?
I keep getting this feeling that having this kid is a horrible horrible mistake. I can't say exactly why I feel this way, but I do know that I feel like the few choices I can independently make over my own life, without regard for anyone else, will be completely stripped away once this kid gets here. I feel like my independence is going out the window. I've talked to DH and he just says "don't say that". I feel lost and alone. I've also been extremely depressed lately as well, so maybe that has something to do with it. I'm usually a pretty active person, but all I want to do now is sleep. Just getting out of bed in the morning is a mental battle. If I wasn't desperate to keep my job, I would probably still be in bed right now. I don't eat much, because cooking is too much effort. I don't drive to stores and shop or go see or call friends because it's too much work. Life is miserable. It's a horrible thing to think, but I didn't feel this way before getting pregnant. To me, it feels like because I'm pregnant I feel this way. I don't know. Did any of you ever feel that way? Or am I just a whack job...
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Hunny you are not a whack
Hunny you are not a whack job...its all those hormones and other things happening to your body.
I am pregnate too and I feel so yucky! I am very emotional tired sick and hungry.
I hear it gets better.....I dont know how far along you are, but I hear the 2nd trimester is better!!
I hate to admit it, but I
I hate to admit it, but I haven't been taking my prenatals very regularly. Before I got pregnant I took my vitamins every morning like clock work, now, I'll remember that I haven't taken them, but instead of getting up to go get them I say, "oh well". I don't even have the motivation to do that simple task.
It will get better. I'm
It will get better. I'm technically due in 3 weeks and totally remember those feelings. We already have DS but this whole pregnancy has been overshawdowed by BM requesting DH terminate his rights to SD. this time around has been completly different then my first pregnancy. I enjoyed that one so much - if I was tired, I came home and slept - I did what I wanted to due because I didn't have a 2 year old at home to chase around. This time I'm miserable. Emotionally & physically! We thought we were done having babies and oops how did that happen?!
Make sure you're taking your prenatals - they do help - your Dr should be checking your iron levers which can make you exhausted also. get enough sleep - Go to bed when you're tired if you can. Try to eat somewhat healthy! Walk or maybe try streching - that will help in the end also. But enjoy it! You as a person are not disappearing - you're still going to be you- Life as you know it is not ending I promise.
Here if you need to talk pregnant lady stuff!
I sleep A LOT. Like, I went
I sleep A LOT. Like, I went to bed at 8pm last night and 'officially' got out of bed at about 7:30am this morning. I would still be there if I didn't have to go to work, I think. I come home and nap during the day. I sleep most of the day it seems and am only awake and functioning for like 3 or 4 hours before I feel like I need to go back to sleep again.
I think that's totally normal
I think that's totally normal - your body is kind of working in overdrive to get things settled for that baby to grow. Sleep all you can - If it's good restorative sleep then that's what your body needs right now. Listen to it - it knows what it wants and needs.
I think no matter how you
I think no matter how you feel you should take your prenatal vitamins. The last thing you want is the burden of something going wrong because you didn't take care of yourself.
And yes...Once that baby comes it's DONE. Gone are the days of getting up and going when you please where you please. The constant packing, and lugging of diapers and bottles and car seats and wipes and all that other crap that we have to carry to go 1/2 a mile because God forbid you don't have what you need when the kid craps all over himself.
However, chances are this is all your hormones freaking out right now trying to adjust to another HUMAN BEING growing inside your body.
Once you see that baby though....Chances are EVERYTHING will just fall into place. Best of luck.
I agree with BlendedFam to
I agree with BlendedFam to not bring it up to her hubby. The problem with bringing it up is that he's not getting it. He's not able to support her on that topic and for her to keep trying to discuss it with him could be a recipe for trouble.
I believe by saying "don't do that" he's not trying to tell her to shut up as much as he's trying to keep her from going down that path of thought. A method that probably helps him cope with issues, but is obviously not working for her.
I think she needs to find another support person to talk to on this one, simply because her husband can not be objective. I don't think blended was too far off in her feedback.
Extremy exhausted? Totally
Extremy exhausted? Totally normal. Mood swings? Normal too! Is this your first pregnancy? I remember my 1st pregnancy sleeping ALL the time! I'd go to sleep by 9 and wake up wheb I had to work (if I didn't have to work I'd be up about 9 or 10!) then after work take a 2 hour nap, wake up to eat/shower then back to bed. Takeyour vitamins and talk to your doctor. If dr starts to sense there is more to it then they'll let you know. But from here it seems normal. After the third month you'll get more energy.
I was pregnant last summer
I was pregnant last summer and to be honest it was horrible. I keep remembering what life was like last year. Honestly I don't recall ever cooking and I love to cook. We ate out A LOT. We have probably 4 or 5 sets of silverware mostly for 12 settings and for a month we had to wash dishes to be able to eat. I had to throw out some plastic containers because I let the food inside get nasty and just couldn't bring myself to open it. I literally spent every moment I was home in the bed. I would come in straight from work, change into pjs and lay down in bed for the rest of the evening. On weekends I would get up and shower then get dressed and climb back into bed. I only left the house to go to work, sometimes my husband made me go by groceries and visit my mom. It is normal for you to feel this way. Sometimes though when you are feeling particularly down it is helpful to express the feelings to your DH or someone else you can trust. It is normal to re-think the pregnancy and think you are making a mistake. It is HUGE change and not something you can change. It always cheered me up to go to babies r us and look around. We rarely bought anything when we went it was just nice to finally have a baby to shop for. Good Luck and when this phase passes you will look back and laugh. I do about everyday right now thinking how horrible I let the house get last summer.