Dive in with a call that way she doesn't have time to read a text and decide how to deal with it, if you call her she'll react honestly and unrehersed and you'll have a better idea of how it will go. I'm the one that initiated a "friendship" with BM because I knew it didn't matter to her if I liked her or not but it matters that she like me because her kids will be around me so I wanted her to know I am nice I emailed her and said I wanted my kids to know their big sisters blah blah blah...there are no resntments between DH and BM as far as their divorce goes, I don't have the bitterness and jelousy to worry about I think I am a better parent and I cringe at her unsolicited advice but we both love the kids so thats our common ground.

Ive had the same thought as well. Our situation is not bad at all however, there seems to be some sort of disconnect between BM and I. From a few conversations we've had, I can tell she is jealous of the life that DH and I have created. In a way I know she wishes they could have accomplished what we have.(We have great careers, education and a nice home) (she is raising 4 kids (only 2 are DH) on a mediocre salary in a 2 bedroom apt) (which is understandable). Not to make her look bad but she is doing the best with what she has. I really think the major issue that she actually did not want to divorce DH. It was really a scare tactic that backfired on her. I just wish that she would not utilize these feelings as a way to dislike me.