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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Wed, 03/13/2024 - 1:36pm

DD30 starts her new job on Monday. She's been making the most of her last week of joblessness.

I had a nice 4-day weekend and went on a road trip with a good friend. We just meandered down to North Carolina to go to a brewery with a naughty name in honor of my dear friend who died 2 years ago in December. Said friend's birthday is this coming Sunday, so she's on my mind.

We had such a blast.

It's been almost 7 weeks since the breakup with zero communication. I also stopped looking at XBF's dating profile nearly a month ago (tomorrow).

FINALLY - good news Monday

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Mon, 03/04/2024 - 12:41pm

My DD30 has a job!!

She had a written job offer in-hand on Friday and was due to accept or decline today at 12:30. As she was about to hit "send" to let them know she was accepting she got an email from the big fancy company (remote job, more money) asking if she was free for a phone call. She let them know that her window was only the next 30 minutes. After 15 mins, she went ahead and sent the email accepting the offer from the small company. Big company called a few minutes later to let her know they went with someone else. *whew*

Happy Friday

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Fri, 03/01/2024 - 9:52am

It's been a rough week. Maybe it's menopause - not sure - but I've been pretty weepy and blue this week.

I hate it that I had a spell of missing my XBF. I used ALL the techniques to remind myself why I walked away. Logically, it all makes sense. Emotionally, I guess I was just going through a phase of missing his presence and all of the good things. I've shaken it off and today is a better day.

Tying up loose ends

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Thu, 02/22/2024 - 10:17am

Still waiting until the 27th to find out if my daughter is going to be offered the job she's worked so hard interviewing for. Keep crossing those fingers.

Today, on my way to the big city, I stopped by my attorney's office to sign off on a new medical power of attorney and advanced directive to remove my XBF and add my DS33. My DD30 was already listed, so it was just a quick swap. Best $50 I've spent all year!!

Sunday will be a month since we broke up and it's getting better every day. I'm looking forward to the days when I don't think about him at all.

BIG Interview Friday

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Fri, 02/16/2024 - 10:05am

I have been kicked out of my home office so that my DD30 can give a presentation to a BIG International company. Their interview process is notoriously lengthy. There are 6 phases and within the last phase, six parts. The presentation and interview with a panel of interviewers is the final stage. She was required to write a research paper and turn in her presentation before this last bit.

Therapy Wednesday

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Wed, 02/14/2024 - 1:33pm

Happy Wednesday!

I had a great session with my therapist today. My head was in a great space when I showed up. I brought my journal and we talked about a few things in it, but she wants to talk more about what I've written next week.

Happy Valentine's Day!!

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Wed, 02/14/2024 - 8:48am

I hope everyone has a wonderful day today. I hope you are loved. I hope you feel loved by your partner, if you have one. I hope you feel the love of your children, if you have them. I hope your furry babies look at you with love (like mine do) and not only when they are hungry and want you to feed them or pet them. LOL I hope your friends are as warm and loving as mine are.

Yes, it's a romantic holiday, but love is love and I hope you're surrounded by it. And most of all, I hope you love yourself. It's not easy sometimes, but it's totally worth it.

Therapy Wednesday

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Wed, 02/07/2024 - 12:11pm

I met with my (former couple's) therapist today and we focused on my background. We talked about my childhood, how my father was a cold, harsh man whose love I could never seem to gain, how him molesting my child caused me to cut ties with my family 28 years ago, how both of my marriages went, and how I was as a child and in my relationships.

I am so blessed...

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Mon, 02/05/2024 - 7:09am

It's been 11 days since I left XBF's house with the last of my things. I've had a rough few days - to be expected.

However, since last Wednesday, I've been on a pretty even keel. And suprisingly, I find it somewhat amusing but also slightly concerning, that XBF now has THREE dating profiles on the same platform.

He created one with the zipcode of his mountain house a few days before we officially broke up and updated it with pictures and more information while I was driving back to my house the day I broke up with him.

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