As I read your post, I kept thinking loss and grief.
Would this be the first time your daughter would have lived apart? I remember crying when DS left for the army and each time DD went back to school (for awhile).
But I see it as they are wanting to make their own way in the world. They are wanting to figure things out on their own. Finding identities separate from family is healthy and normal.
Whatever the reason, menopause etc, you are feeling what you feel and thats ok, youll move through it and past it. So go ahead a wallow a bit then do what you do best, pick yourself up and carry on with verve and energy and that twinkle in your eye for new adventures.
I think that you are just overwhelmed, emotionally, with everything that's happening.
The whole point of raising kids is so that they are able to be independent and live their own lives. Cutting the apron strings is part of that. I get that it hurts but it is the way that it's supposed to be.
Honestly, if your son has issues "living with mom", he should get a place of his own and pay a fair market price. He is choosing not to, so he really has no right to gripe!
Missing someone who has recently left your life is perfectly normal. As long as you don't do something crazy about it!
Things that got you two together. There also bad things.. when the bad things out weigh the good things that not the relationship for you. Technically you don't have to hate your XBF You just can't live with him, create a life with him. Have the future you want with him. It's a hard concept to understand. He can be your BFF but not marrage material. To you
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Loss and grief
As I read your post, I kept thinking loss and grief.
Would this be the first time your daughter would have lived apart? I remember crying when DS left for the army and each time DD went back to school (for awhile).
I know it seems like they are pushing you away...
I know it seems like they are pushing you away...
But I see it as they are wanting to make their own way in the world. They are wanting to figure things out on their own. Finding identities separate from family is healthy and normal.
Whatever the reason, menopause etc, you are feeling what you feel and thats ok, youll move through it and past it. So go ahead a wallow a bit then do what you do best, pick yourself up and carry on with verve and energy and that twinkle in your eye for new adventures.
I think that you are just
I think that you are just overwhelmed, emotionally, with everything that's happening.
The whole point of raising kids is so that they are able to be independent and live their own lives. Cutting the apron strings is part of that. I get that it hurts but it is the way that it's supposed to be.
Honestly, if your son has issues "living with mom", he should get a place of his own and pay a fair market price. He is choosing not to, so he really has no right to gripe!
Missing someone who has recently left your life is perfectly normal. As long as you don't do something crazy about it!
Sorry you've been feeling blue.
Good luck to your daughter
Good luck to your daughter and her new career adventures
Its normal to miss your ex especially as you recall the good times. Hang in there it gets better!
There is always good things
Things that got you two together. There also bad things.. when the bad things out weigh the good things that not the relationship for you. Technically you don't have to hate your XBF You just can't live with him, create a life with him. Have the future you want with him. It's a hard concept to understand. He can be your BFF but not marrage material. To you