Clearly you project a much more youthful energy and appearance than the date on your birth certificate!
It's wonderful to be desired.. but it's also fantastic that you are past the "I will date you because you like me" stage of your life.. that you are being intentional and discerning and not proceeding when the outcome is not one that you would see as a reality.
I do agree that being in the same stage of life.. where he would be also nearing retirement would be more ideal.. because I have seen situations where there is a big difference.. by the time the younger spouse reaches retirement age.. the older is "too old" to do all those enjoyable travels and activities.. esp if the age difference is pronounced. Things like that aren't as apparent when both people are healthy and active stages.. but ultimately the older person eventually will meet the realities of aging.. and well before the younger setting up that situation where there are issues.
But.. glad it was fun and great to get yourself out there meeting new people.. you are enriched for the experience for sure.
Girl 97% of the time these men want to be the "friend" that blowing your back out lol (no disrespect to you but that's seriously how they think)....and they will see no obstacles because their pen!s is blind to any obstacles in the way of some p*$$¥
Good thing you let him know off the top that you're in a different life stage than he is so if he chooses to delude himself....that's on him.
Hon, you had a fun evening; you'll both look back on it with a smile plus you've made a new friend (without benefits). It's also imperative to keep those flirting skills in good working order.
I occasionally interview for a job to stay "fresh" just in case. Nothing wrong with staying "fresh" getting your flirt on. And it's flattering when younger men find you desirable! I enjoyed a short Cougar phase before I reconnected with DH. Fun, but I drew the line at very light intimacy (handholding and kisses). I'm not into casual sex and was up front about it. Had a lot of fun. Enjoy yourself, lovely!
I am so loving all of your posititve posts! When we get people on here wondering if they would be able to make it on their own, I am going to point them in your direction. You have handled this breakup and your new life with such an understanding of yourself and where you want to be in the future.
Believe me "cougaring" is NOT worth it. Chef is 8 yrs younger than me and I always worry about him outliving me (although I doubt it as he is back to boozing).
Anytime I dealt with a younger dude....I regretted it later.
These young mfs (while good for a "ride" of a lifetime) are typically headaches to deal with long term --- they be immature, petty, obnoxious, cheap, annoying etc
This generation of young men is NOT built with the same quality and values as the older generation. They provide not much other than some eggplants and headaches and unbalanced ph.
My (now deadbeat) breeder is younger than me .... ugh!!!
N.e.v.e.r. again will I deal with a younger dude for anything more than a boy toy cause 9 times out of 10 that's gonna be all they're good for.
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Clearly you project a much
Clearly you project a much more youthful energy and appearance than the date on your birth certificate!
It's wonderful to be desired.. but it's also fantastic that you are past the "I will date you because you like me" stage of your life.. that you are being intentional and discerning and not proceeding when the outcome is not one that you would see as a reality.
I do agree that being in the same stage of life.. where he would be also nearing retirement would be more ideal.. because I have seen situations where there is a big difference.. by the time the younger spouse reaches retirement age.. the older is "too old" to do all those enjoyable travels and activities.. esp if the age difference is pronounced. Things like that aren't as apparent when both people are healthy and active stages.. but ultimately the older person eventually will meet the realities of aging.. and well before the younger setting up that situation where there are issues.
But.. glad it was fun and great to get yourself out there meeting new people.. you are enriched for the experience for sure.
Girl 97% of the time these
Girl 97% of the time these men want to be the "friend" that blowing your back out lol (no disrespect to you but that's seriously how they think)....and they will see no obstacles because their pen!s is blind to any obstacles in the way of some p*$$¥
Good thing you let him know off the top that you're in a different life stage than he is so if he chooses to delude himself....that's on him.
Hon, you had a fun evening;
Hon, you had a fun evening; you'll both look back on it with a smile plus you've made a new friend (without benefits). It's also imperative to keep those flirting skills in good working order.
Thank for the hopefull blessings
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I occasionally interview for
I occasionally interview for a job to stay "fresh" just in case. Nothing wrong with staying "fresh" getting your flirt on. And it's flattering when younger men find you desirable! I enjoyed a short Cougar phase before I reconnected with DH. Fun, but I drew the line at very light intimacy (handholding and kisses). I'm not into casual sex and was up front about it. Had a lot of fun. Enjoy yourself, lovely!
Good to hear you're enjoying
Good to hear you're enjoying your journey however you desire it to be.
I am so loving all of your positive posts!
I am so loving all of your posititve posts! When we get people on here wondering if they would be able to make it on their own, I am going to point them in your direction. You have handled this breakup and your new life with such an understanding of yourself and where you want to be in the future.
Keep it light
Believe me "cougaring" is NOT worth it. Chef is 8 yrs younger than me and I always worry about him outliving me (although I doubt it as he is back to boozing).
100%
100%
Anytime I dealt with a younger dude....I regretted it later.
These young mfs (while good for a "ride" of a lifetime) are typically headaches to deal with long term --- they be immature, petty, obnoxious, cheap, annoying etc
This generation of young men is NOT built with the same quality and values as the older generation. They provide not much other than some eggplants and headaches and unbalanced ph.
My (now deadbeat) breeder is younger than me .... ugh!!!
N.e.v.e.r. again will I deal with a younger dude for anything more than a boy toy cause 9 times out of 10 that's gonna be all they're good for.