I am looking for helpful advice on how to deal with BM with as little drama as possible. The BM in my life is bipolar and acts like a 12 year old girl. Really. Calls names - even such names as "4 eyes"...that should give you some idea as to the maturity level of this woman. In a 3 year period I have only engaged in conversation with her twice and both times it was incredibly horrible and a huge scene. I ignore her as much as possible, but it's very hard to ignore completely.

Here is an example of what she did yesterday (and this is VERY tame compared to normal). My SO has to be out of town tonight for work, so in order to stop the scenes and drama that have happened in the past when I took care of her kids when my SO was out of town, we decided to text her to let her know and give her the option as to whether she wanted the kids or if she wanted me to keep them. One would think that was a civilized way of handlling the situation. She comes back with "I will take them because I know they don't want to spend the night with HER!" So, because I'm at a loss (and have tried so many, many different ways) as to how to deal with her and stop my frustration and the drama....please give me suggestions as to how any of you would have responded to that text.