Help! My SD just moved in...

My SD 7 just moved in with us and her attachemnt to her BD is driving me up the wall. She is all over him all day! Wherever he goes, she's on his heels, she's sitting next to him, playing in his hair/face, hugging on him, holding his hand when were out (meaning coming between us and grabbing his hand) etc!! It's so aggravating and even worse when I tried addressing this to him stating I feel he needs to stop her from being so touchy/feely - he says "she just loves her daddy". I am trying to find a way to talk to him for him to really receive what I'm saying. My mom came to visit and noticed this immediately. everybody sees this but him.

If she's gonna remain in our home this has to stop! I will not have anyone come between my husband and I - especially a child!

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Where has this little girl

Where has this little girl been for the last three years of your marriage? And how was this subject addressed during the times SD was having visitation with her father?

Oh, and because I read your other blog post first that you entered after this one, I'll just answer that one while I am here.

No you can not take the child and have her e-val for meds without her father's acknowledge and approval. Your health insurance coverage on the child does not equate to giving you any medical authority with the child.

Do you really believe you can just drug this little girl and 'poof' goes all your problems?

Wow! Definitely not trying to

Wow! Definitely not trying to drug her. I think she needs meds but simply want her evaluated (2nd opinion) to show him that two professionals agree there's an issue.

And she had been with her BM before moving with us. We moved out of state.

Has your DH spoken with the

Has your DH spoken with the child's school teachers on her school time behavior and any learning difficulties?

And keeping in mind that many children who do take ADHD meds do so during school time hours and it wears off by afterschool, are large part of what you are complaining of is non-school hours.

Dad has to be do the hard work of at home. The providing structure, teach self discipline. If he has just recently gotten custody of the child , and the living with a new SM and a stepbrother , the little girl is already under adjustments that any child can struggle with. He needs to educate himself on ADHD and learn parenting skills to help the child. He needs to be able to guide her. One of the things a child with ADHD needs is consistency.

Your his life. No matter how professional and/or educated you may be on ADHD children, sometimes the push needs to come from an outside source. Which is where the school can help. Simply talking to your DH with a possible recommendation for an e-val coming from her teachers and telling him what and how they see the child/child's behavior in a different setting than he does can be enough to give the parent an encouragement to do what he thinks you are just being too critical of the child and/or the silly old 'you just hate my kid' routine.