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Disengagement Works

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Submitted by Keepsmiling on Wed, 01/08/2014 - 7:47am

So ysd daughter has her baby. I don't know if it was miss communication or done on purpose but; ssil never called us back to say baby was born. Of course baby's picture was posted on facebook. (which neither dh or I can see because they unfriended me and blocked dh). Anyway, dh calls sd and ssil answers her phone and dh tells him we are coming up to see the baby.
Interesting how I feel.
I felt no connection at all. I can only say disengagement works.

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Submitted by Keepsmiling on Thu, 01/09/2014 - 7:46am

We did go see the baby. I was ok with it. SSil and sd acted very cool to us. Did not bother me. I am not letting her use this child as a pawn. Together we already have 7 grands who are part of our lives.
I went to the shower also because dh asked me to. My in laws and I went together. It was strained but I lived thru it.
There is no bm because she died when sd was 14. Funny, I though it would be easier because bm passed away. It some ways it was worse.
I have given up on sd. Dh says he has had enough.lol I don't buy it for a moment. I have heard that scenario too many times.
You are right about relationships they are a two way street. Sd is so used to manipulating her dad to get want she wants. And really rears her ugly self when she doesn't.