After SS13 birthday party last Friday, BF asked me to stay until he came back from dropping off the skids to BM so we could talk. We spoke a lot, we both expressed how we were feeling and how a lot of the stresses around us such as BM, finances and my job just to name a few are affecting how we communicate, hence why there are so many arguments and the constantly going around in circles.
We are just taking baby steps for now, too many things to tackle at once.

And then….

For those who don’t remember, in October last year BF and I sat down and created a schedule for visitation. I have 3 ss’s, the younger 2 live with BM and middle of last year the eldest one (13) came to live with us.
Just like you all, I’m sick and tried of BM making up her own drop off and pick up times and days for whenever it suits her. So that’s when the schedule comes in.
BM wasn’t happy with the first or 2nd schedule, so it was redone afew times until there was an agreement.

Long story short, I've been with BF for 4 years now and only the last two BM and been buying, b'day, fathers day and christmas presants on behalf of the skids to BF. (Before you ask, yes I was buying gifts from the skids to BF and actually had to return some cause BM started to get in before me, anyway so I stopped buying presants). On Christmas eve, BM asked BF where her presant is from the skids and BF laughed and said that he hasn't done that for the lsat 4 years, her come back was "well I havn't been causing you guys any trouble" WTF???

Thanks to all who PM me, it is so much appreciated.
It Monday morning here and I packed up and left Saturday morning (I never got rid of my little unit, so I was able to move back there). Spoken to BF a couple of times since. He doesn't even know what he wants anymore.
I told him that I'm willing to really try and make this work till the end of the year but his not sure.