So, My DH works full time and so do I. DH travels a lot for his job, so on the days he is in town I try to cook a nice dinner at home since he eats out a lot. On many occasions his adult kids are around for dinner and I don't mind cooking more for them as well. Many times when he has been out of town or busy, I have went out of my way to go ahead and cook dinner for the Adult sds because they were going to be around. But lately, I have been feeling really taken for granted.

Tonight DH has a work dinner that he needs to attend so he will be in. SD23 was at the house when we discussed this and I was vague about dinner. She said she was planning to hang out at the house all day but there was no offer of cooking me anything since I am working all day. Her and her boyfriend just looked at me and said whatever you want to do.

You would think a 23 year old who fully knows how to cook (as well as does her BF) could offer to do something nice and not selfish for me for once, since I do so much for them all of the time. Since I got no offer (which I wanted to see if I would) I told everyone that they were all on their own for dinner. That they were welcome to come hang out or whatever but to grab themself a hamburger to bring home.

I wasn't mean or hateful when I said it, I just acted detached and that it wasn't high on my list of things to do. Maybe I was wrong. DH didn't seem to care one way or the other. He has TOLD them to come help me, but I am tired of that too. If they don't want to help me then so be it, I don't have to do things for them either as they are adults.

I guess what I have to do is just stop being so helpful and then maybe they will get it. I doubt it though, their BM has kind of raised them that way since she was the custodial parent for most of the time they were growing up.