Yesterday while we were trying to sell our camper to a couple, DH told them *I* wanted to move July 4th weekend but he didn't see how that was going to happen.

After they left I asked him what he meant.

He told me that the house couldn't possibly be sold by then and if we left "we" would most certainly lose the house because we wouldn't have jobs to afford it.

#1 We don't have jobs to afford it now.

#2 It is HIS house, not mine. He has repeatedly refused to put it in my name even though I saved it from repossession when I moved in four years ago and have helped him pay for it and improve the property ever since then.

So today he is asking if I'm REALLY leaving July 4th regardless if he comes or not.

My answer? Oh Hell Yeah.

I reminded him that I told him I was leaving in NOVEMBER. He has had MONTHS to put the house on the market. And even now when he is finally putting it on the market, it is so overpriced he will probably not get any lookers, let alone offers.

I reminded him that for MONTHS I have begged him to send SD13 back to her mother's because I was getting sick and couldn't do this anymore. He promised me when she first came here to live 18 months ago that he would send her back before he'd let her ruin our marriage. And that was a lie.

So YES, I'm leaving July 4th weekend, with or without DH. I won't say I haven't cried about it because I have, but that doesn't change the fact that I am leaving.

He can come with or he can stay. He might could even come later, after he finds himself living in a cardboard box, but I'm not gonna promise I'm still gonna want him at that point. I guess we'll just have to wait and see.