Well the blow up finally happened a couple of days ago. SD19 started with the attitude again and I lost it. I told her she was not to talk to me that way anymore. I didn't let my 9yr old bioson talk to me that way or anyone else and she wasn't going to do it anymore either. Then she started with the you guys don't appriciate me, so I pointed out that we did a heck of a lot more for her that she totally takes for granted so she has no reason to complain about appriciating someone. Girl had absolutely nothing to say...first time for everything I guess. Well she sent a text to DH telling him that I was a nightmare and she wasn't staying there anymore. When he got home she told him she didn't want to be a part of his family anymore and that it seemed like he turned into whatever female he was with at the time. When he was with her biomom he was mean like her and now he's mean like me. Hmmmmm can we see a common problem here? I think she will never realize that the common denominator in all this conflict is her! Anyway, she's gone! She moved out (well at least for now)and went to live where she was moving to a month early. THANK the LORD!! DH actually backed me up on this one. I think after the father's day fiasco he was relieved to see her go. I know he didn't want her to but at the same time it's a big destresser on both our parts. It's only been 3 days and already a big difference. My bioson told me Thursday he doesn't want her to move back because she is too mean. Works for me. Of course she tried 2 or 3 times to lay the guilt trip on DH. Made him a CD and titled it "Songs for a hero", included a picture of the 2 of them when she was about 7 and wrote on the back of it "always Daddy's little girl", told him, we used to get along fine when it was just the 2 of us (again forgetting about the fathers day fiasco, and the time last summer she moved out because he was too mean, she had a party at the cottage and did a lot of damage but he was mean when he yelled at her and made her pay for it.)
Since this is her first time out on her own and living with roomates it should be interesting. They will sure not put up with her crap for as long as DH and I did. I can just imagine what they will tell her when she starts giving them orders on how to live in the apartment. Then it will be all their fault I suppose since it's never her fault :jawdrop: Anyway, alls good so far and we'll see what the holidays bring. If she wants to come for a visit that's fine with me as long as she understands I'm still not going to put up with the crap even for a couple of weeks.