Counting down the days...
If I had to choose one word for my step daughter, it would be 'worthless'. I feel terrible with that thought, but it is the honest truth. She puts out no effort, only does the simplist chores if she is reminded or nagged, and spends 10X as much time on social media as she does on school work. She is not likely to graduate with her class, but hasn't caught on to that fact. To be honest, her mom gave up on her before I did. I'm done though. She doesn't respond to any offers of help or encouragement. She expresses as much gratitude as a trained parrot. I will continue providing a safe home and food for her through the school year. Fortunately, she is 18 and we have no legal resposibility at this point. I wish her no ill will, I just have very little left to offer.
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Are you and your spouse on the same page?
It sounds like she has very little in the area of life skills. Trust me on this one, there is no magical change at 18. If you have not already, please sit down with your spouse and discuss in depth. Be suer that the two of you see eye to eye and then arrange time to sit down with SD and be clear the expectations. You may even want her to sign a little family agreement that she is expected to get a job, then save, then get out on her own by X age and that while she is 18+ and living at home, the expectations are .. Fill in the blank ... gainful employment, assist with laundry, cleaning, dishes.
Communication is key here or you will have a marriage ending WWIII on your hands.
Although my SS28 has a great work ethic, has begun to help out some around home, etc. It sadly took an extreme blow up where I said some vile things to my DW in order to trigger a sloppily executed blurt out by DW that SS28 will have a safe landing spot (he has been paying renty regularly) but that within 60 days he needs to sit down and discuss with us his plan/steps/dates to try getting out on his own.