Posting as a BM on this one... there has never been a question on my son (16) going to college. Never once in his life. He is beyond gifted and will make an amazing engineer one day. He is doing everything he can to get in John's Hopkins. 

Quick recap: We have been operating off a temp CS order for over 5 years. We have requested in court no less that 7 times that the judge make a final ruling on CS. He had not... until last month. He concluded, without any income documentation from BM that DH was paying roughly $500/ per month less that he should of and backed dated for 5 years. We have the ordered being halted and BM was supposed to provide her tax returns by last Friday- which she did not. There were also no other deductions that should have been calculated in.

Last week-ish we got a child support order from our attorney that basically goes back to the temp order from 5 years ago to current listing all the CS DH should have been paying this whole time and told us to work with BM for a settlement. The arrearages but DH 23K behind once I broke it all out on a spreadsheet. It was insane. 

DH was telling me about some conference he might have to go to, which lead to talking about dates. Me wanting to go on a trip for my kids Spring break (They are with their dad) with just the 2 of us since our Thanksgiving trip got canceled (THANK GOD- can you imgaine if we had been in Mexico when DD was in her accident!! Unanswered prayers!).

Then he starts talking about SS coming for spring break. 

Me: (Trying to hide all emotions) Are you going to push it? Or just ask him if he wants to come and go from there?

Him: What should I do?