DH caved and got the plane tickets for the date "SS" (read BM) wanted. DH hasn't spoken to SS in 6 weeks- he won't return a text or answer a call. DH's Email to her:

See below dates and times locations of travel for our son for Christmas vacation for our son this year. 

 

I would still love to have our son out for thanksgiving this year since you are cutting me short two days over the winter break. Please let me know by tomorrow so I can buy the thanksgiving plane tickets if I can have our son for thanksgiving this year 2020; yes or no.

 

I am assuming you will be taking our son to the airport and picking him up on the return flight.

Her response:

The dates we provided are half of his break so I’m not sure why you think you’re being shorted. I’m sorry SS isn’t taking your calls I’ve told him repeatedly to answer. He is very upset with you. As for thanksgiving, he is only coming for Christmas because of the court order, so having no order for thanksgiving he will not get on a plane. SS is very upset with you and there seems to be nothing I can do to correct this. 

Funny because SS wasn't upset with DH or I when he was out here for the summer he wasn't upset at all. She get's 11 overnights for winter break and we get 7. Last time I checked that wasn't 1/2. DH gave up 2 days. I hate her. I just wish she would get hit by a damn tractor (I would say car but there is a better chance of a tractor where they live). But then he would come live with us and that would be worse at this point.

The email I sent back to DH:

Visits are counted by overnights.

 

She gets: 18th -19th, 27th-4th- 11 nights

You get: 20th-27- 7 nights

You lost 2 nights/days. 

 

And the reason SS won't get on a plane or answer the calls is because she has no parental control. That's probably why he thought it was all well and good to steal Vodka from a cop and get pass out drunk at a family cookout with his old friends here. The kids in our house would not and have not ever behaved with such recklessness or disregard.

I think I am starting to hate SS too. I never thought that was possible but I really think it is starting. I really hope he does send that back to her. Parental control was a big deal with the judge and the GAL. I really want him to send that dig to her. 

** In other news, my mom's chemo schedule has been doubled and intensified. It seems like every appointment she has the prognosis is worse. She starts next week so this weekend is our last chance to see her in person until the end of January. She has never missed a Christmas with my kids since they were born. She would even fly from VA to WA when they were little to be there for them.

My dad has been in a serious depression since her double mastectomy. I think he was able to see her as a patient until that happened. I think he now  sees that his wife might not make it. 

My sister and I are not on speaking terms. 

SS20 is just a lot right now.

Online school sucks.

My job is super stressful right now. I am trying to hold everything together here.

I did get in with my doctor yesterday and she prescribed a daily antianxiety/antidepressant for me. I really need it to start working fast.

Did I mention I really need BM to just F*ck off?