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BM is Unbelievable!

justmakingthebest's picture

We had to talk with SS for almost an hour trying to convince him that the Geneticist has more medical training than BM. That he is not sick. Had to keep saying things like "Remember how all 3 doctors told you that there was no blood work today, becasue there isn't a gene for Elhor-Danlos? So when your mom said you had a blood test when you were a baby, she must be mistaken on what you were tested for, because there is no blood test for this." -- "If you had this disease, you would not be able to play contact sports. You would have been seriously hurt"--- "have you ever had a dislocation that you forgot to tell us about?" -- "Do you have pain right now?"-- and on and on and on. 

At what point can I scream "YOU MOM WANTS YOU TO BE SICK SO SHE HAS EITHER VALIDATION FOR HER LIFE, OR SHE IS TRYING TO GET PAID FOR YOU!" ?? Someone please... tell me I can! 

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Survivingstephell's picture

ASk him WHY his mother would want him to be sick.  ASk him questions about why this or that, what would be the reason for that etc...  You can tell him all kinds of stuff but helping him to connect the dots and figure it out will have a lasting impact.  It did for mySD18 and her mother was just your averge HCBM.  

Have you done any research on deprogramming cult memebers?  Might help.  

WalkOnBy's picture

^^^^^^^^^^^agree

"kiddo, the doctors say blah blah blah and your mom says blah blah blah.  Why do you think your mom doesn't believe the doctors?  Is there any reason that she would want you to be sick?"

"kiddo, the doctors have x years of schooling and y years of experience.  Your mom isn't a doctor.  Why do you think mom believe she knows more than the doctors?"

justmakingthebest's picture

Yep.... Facetime, calls, snapchat...

I did turn off the GPS on his phone and told him I was uncomfortable with his mother tracking our every move. I told him that those are the rules in our house. He can turn it back on as soon as he is in the airport. I told him to tell his mother to call me if she has a problem with it but GPS is off or the phone becomes mine. DH nodded and said absolutley.