Update! DH caved !
I was hoping he wouldn't after he told BM to figured out how SD would get to our house Sunday , Monday or today at SIL HOUSE . This whole time not a word from SD at all!!!! Well I just knew that BM would hold at because she knew DHxwould cave and get SD 15 even tho BM told DH f you, and SD has not even bothered to text or call DH. SD knows that today we got to her aunts house . Well of course DH sends SD a message and she said she wants to come but now we have to drive out of our way to meet to get her because SD is staying with BM MOM. We are sure if BM is there as well or where BM is at . He tells me and I'm like ok so this whole time SD did not bother to even call you or text you and now we have to drive out of our way to get her ??? How does that make sense ? And DH just snaps at me and starts making excuses for SD and how he just wants to see her blah blah and I'm like yes but apparently she doesn't give 2 shots about seeing you !!!! So now I am pissed and don't even wanna go! I told him I am sick and tired of both BM and SD starting their drama every damn holiday ! We went one year with out having a blowout fight and that was last year but DH and I would always get in nasty fights Christmas Eve or Christmas Day because of BM and SD! I am just sick of this shit !!!
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These guilty daddys
ALWAYS backslide. And if they have an instant of sanity and DON'T cave one time, they second guess and start Monday morning quarterbacking. "Maybe I was too harsh with the HCGUBM or Junior."
It is pathetic. They don't see it as child chasing and SM's loss of respect for them just increases.
Don't know if you can play this card (I can't bc I'm older) but no adult activities for H as you have lost respect for him due to his cow towing to BM (don't mention SD)
Well I ended up leaving with
Well I ended up leaving with the kids to SIL house alone because I told DH I didn't wanna be around him and the kids wanted to come . DH told SD he couldn't get her since he stayed home. Well then SD cries to SIL . SIL calls BM so of course we must cater to a crying SD 15. So BM brought SD to SIL house . DH said he is also coming . So yea it's a huge huge mess but at least BM had to bring SD so SD is staying with SIL now
I told my hubby that my aunt
I told my hubby that my aunt is wanting us to come Saturday. He then says I have to wait to see when SD wants to meet. I then said, well any day but not Saturday we're seeing my aunt. It's as if he wants us to leave all days open "in case" his kid "may" want to meet.
I would be like, "That's fine
I would be like, "That's fine dear. You can stay home and wait to see if your kids will reach out. I'll be at my aunt's .
Ugh, I'm sorry. And here we
Ugh, I'm sorry. And here we all were praising him for finally setting limits....it sucks to be jerked around every holiday. As long as he keeps caving they will keep jerking.
He caved so bad omg it was a
He caved so bad omg it was a full ass drama tonight !! I left with the kiddos straight to SIL house. Since DH said he would meet BM and SD half way he told SD not to leave yet until he was leaving the house . Then when DH saw me leaving with the kids he asked SD if BM could just take her to SIL house ( like he originally told BM) but SD said "too late we already left the house " first of all why the hell did SD leave with out DH telling her to. So BM and SD were waiting and DH told her that he was not going to SIL house and that I had left already . SD kept asking if I could get her and DH told her no because it was too far out of my way and he told her not to leave yet. Well DH was driving to where she was because SD was crying because her feelings were hurt and She kept telling DH she didn't want to go anymore and and she didn't want to be in the car with him. For me I would have said "okay throw your tantrum, I told you not to leave yet" but instead DH still drove to meet BM, the whome
time DH was telling SD to not leave the place where he agreed to meet them. What does SD do ??? She calls SIL crying and then they leave!!!!! DH gets to the meeting spot and they are gone !!! That would have been a hell no spanking if ky kids pulled that crap! So DH drive all the way to meet SD ( out of his way) and she left !!! Again, this was SD own doing because he told SD to no leave the house in the first place until he said he was ready to meet but she said he was taking too long !!!! So SD gets to SIL house and shortly after DH comes. And SD stays the night with SIL when we leave ! lol I mean this could not be more of a shit show!
ALL that and SD didn't even
ALL that and SD didn't even stay with you?! Jesus. I thought my SO's family was the biggest shit show. Yours wins. Your DH might be willing to keep dancing to their tunes but you can decide for yourself what you will put up with.
Yes it was a huge , huge mess
Yes it was a huge , huge mess . You should have heard the way SD was talking to DH . She was literally telling him she didn't want to be around him and he was still there going to meet BM!!!! This was all her fault!!! She is the only who left with out DH even saying he was ready to meet then she pulled this !!?! I told DH if one of our kids pulled that crap and made me drive all that way to get them and their little butt left and disrespected me, that would be their butt!!!!!! He was like " I know but it's Christmas and I don't feel like argusing in x MAs . " sure whatever . He was talking to her about it at SIL house . But it was too much . I told DH , ok that's enough! I said next year we are not even going to spend x mas eve with your family so if BM wants SD to still hang out with your family then she can talk to SIL about it. Tell both BM and SD we will be elsewhere so don't contact us! Totally BS. He better seriously have a talk with her before her little butt even thinks about coming over which I'm sure she won't! Oh and big surprise , SD has not even texted DH merry Christmas or anything for her sibling. Brat!
And why. Should anything change
BM gets her way. Only one upset is you abd us.
Well I'm just glad that BM
Well I'm just glad that BM did actually take SD to SIL house and had to pick her up but still. This was a huge huge mess
Good for you for going on your own with the kids.
Good for you for going on your own with the kids. Moving forward you need to try end disengage from all of this nonsense more often. If Dh wants to continue with the drama every holiday, let him at it - but remove yourself and kids as much as you can. I hope you were able to have a little fun with the kids.