Okay since july, my father in law passed away, my sd who lives with us full time was put in a theraputic home, my husband took over his fathers bussiness and has been a bear to deal with becuase he wasn't ready for this nor is this what he wanted to do but felt he had to for his mother's sake.

So last night maybe 11pm (i was asleep) DH finally decided to talk. he talked and talked and talked till maybe 2 in the morning. DH finally cried about his dad and how he didn't want to do this and is shutting the business down friday. Considering his dad died on the job from toxic fumes im thrilled. now the big part. DH talked about his daughter being in this theraputic home, and expressed how mad he was that she has been treating me the way she is and that Sunday when we are going to family therapy he is going to be putting his foot down. and let her know she deicides to yell and start answering every question with a question or just being plain mean or hateful that we can leave and that he is going to be telling her these things so that she can't say oh "moms just being mean" she proceeded to yell at me telling me she has a life and can't call me on mondays she has other people to call he said he will let her know that us driving up there 4 Hours every Saturday then spending and hour with her and an hour visiting that it takes up all our time we could be speding doing our stuff and spending time with our boys instead of finding a sitter and paying the money for that. He also expressed how he has really been feeling about how sd14 has treated me and how it does upset him and said its time to start thinking about whats next becuase she does not want to make any improvement nor does she even want to come home. She is making 4 f's and they are in the 20's and 30's. He also said he is worried about her being a productive citizen in a few years and he said he was sick of bio son4 being hurt becuase he wants his big sissy.

I am shocked! It is about time he stands up to the little brat!