Well last night he approaches me that he is thinking of seeking full custody of SD15. If you remember she went to live with BM after the suing us to live with mom and not see Dad. You have to read the old blogs. But, basically he gave up fighting it and let her go a year and half ago. Since then we have still not settled in court because BM wanted DH to pay child support. He didn't have to and she still has been stalling on signing the papers. So in the meantime, SS13 wants to live here and she was served on that. She is stalling and lying to SS and DH that she wouldn't fight it. Now we find out she and her lawyers are stalling. So DH thinks since he is going to have to pay another 12K in fees to get SS he should just get SD15 as well. Probably won't happen but he might as well go for it.

Holy cow, I promised to support him and if we did get her back, we would discuss my living arrangements at that time. Told him I wouldn't divorce him, but I don't know if I could live with her again. He didn't think we would get her, but it may force BM's hand in ending this and giving us SS sooner rather than later. We did talk about what would happen if she did come here. I told him the first thing is the earring comes out of the ear and she is going to a stylist to get her hair back to it's normal shade of brunette. And he would have to be all over her about rules. She was not going to rule this house again. He understood and said it was going to be miserable for her here and we would all suffer. I told him I won't, if it gets bad, I will find other accomadations. I will not put myself or my son through it again.

He works 12 hours a day, so it would all fall on me to police her. She is out of control with BM. We would have to undo damage of the last two years and no parenting. I think we could do it, but I am not sure that I want to sacrifice myself in the process or the boys.

I do not think BM would want this, but part of me thinks that there is a possibility that she will be back in our lives. As of now, she has seen him 4 times since she walked out May 2010. I really thought this was over with her. But, I know it is not, she will be a factor for him forever. I have to accept that, but, I do not have to like this child.

Hopefully, BM will give up SS in order to keep her mini-me. SS13 sees through his BM games. Last week she even asked him if she bought him two XBoxes and 8 Controllers if he would stay. He laughed at her. He has laughed about it to us. She doesn't even know this kid. He asked his Dad what will she try next. Dad said a Ferrari...Everyone laughed.

Now I get to worry about this for the next month....