How can she get away with this?!
Ok, so long time member, 1st time poster...Currently, we are trying to settle custody of FSD8. BM and FDH talked back in December and they agreed that the current schedule was working (we had 50/50). BM and FDH split everything extra. She has her own room at both places, tons of toys and clothes at both places. It worked. January when they went to court, she refused to sign the paper. Then we found out she was pregnant. *Light bulb, she wants money! (They never paid CS to each other b/c they each had her 50% of the time). So they went to mediation. Again, they agreed on everything in mediation...go to court and "NO!" BM refuses to sign those (because they didn't mention CS). So then a GAL was appointed. FSD told the GAL she wants to see her mom and dad equally, they came up with a new schedule (one where we lost out on a couple days. 
) but it was doable. We just recently went back to court and she refuses to sign this one!!! How can she keep saying no?! She was a bartender, so she quit her job and now she wants MY FDH to support her. She made sure she hurried up and got married once she found out she was pregnant, and I think is trying to turn FSD into the mini-mom (BM wasn't around much when FSD was a baby, so I'm not sure if she can even take care of a baby.) We're at a loss on what to do. I told FDH that we should start saying no to everything. Unless it was the initial agreement, then the answer is NO! Will a judge eventually just make a ruling? This woman, who has never had her child for a consecutive week thinks she wants full custody?! Sorry for the rambling, I'm just so pissed that she can't do what's right!!!! Her new husband has a job where he may have to relocate. I think she wants full custody so she can take FSD anywhere, and that would kill FDH...and me too for that matter. She is a great kid. We're doing week on/week off this summer, and our weeks off are terribly long. The house is too quiet. Can she just up and move this kid if she somehow gets full custody? Anyone have any advice on what we should tell our lawyer to do? (I also feel like FDH's lawyer is incompetent, but that is another issue.)
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Stick to the min of what you
Stick to the min of what you want if not more. It is not often these days that a judge will give a dad less time then they are used to. I hope you've kept good documentation of the days SD has been with you guys. If you can prove it has been 7 out of 14 days consistently, you have a good chance. When BM tried this with DH, DH ended up with more time (and eventually full custody). Document, don't settle and good luck!
The 8 yr old didn't dictate
The 8 yr old didn't dictate the schedule. The 50/50 has been in place since she was 1. She just told the GAL that she wants it to stay the same. She didn't want to come to dad's every other weekend. When FDH and BM's divorce was finalized, that was when BM got the hair up her butt to go for full custody. They never had a custody arrangement on paper, they had just been doing the same schedule since then. The GAL even said it would tear the child up to change the schedule that much. But obviously, BM doesn't care. She sees $$ now when she looks at FSD, even though we have countless emails where BM says she "doesn't want our money, nor has ever needed our money." That was of course before she got knocked up. She's one of those women who can't do ANYTHING while pregnant. So since she has no income, she wants full custody so she can get the most $$ from my FDH. That's why I told FDH to say no, we want her all the time. Since you can't support her (due to no job). But in our state, father's don't get full custody hardly at all.