This my first time doing this. I feel lost in some ways. I had been with my wife for 13yrs and I have raised my stepson. His now 17yrs. My stepson has autistic spectrum and adhd. He doesn't see like he has this disability. I had help him with struggles, yes I'm strict parents but supportive. As for his mother she has a focused issues and she very lean back with him. There is no structure on her part and no guidance.  I feel like I doing both jobs as parent for him and step parent. However he lies too much and procrastinate a lot. I decided couple months of ago for her to take the lead and it came out that he was lying to her about his homework and other issues.  Then I had to step in.  He lies, and play like a victim here. I don't trust him and I feel like his planning on something. However his father is an immigrant from Honduras and he was in jail for raping his step siblings. I just see his hate for him mom not been there and me for being strict. He like thing on his ways  I love her but I can't trust him   I just don't know what to do