Wouldn't change a thing. Love my DH, he is without doubt my soulmate. I have my gripes about the skids, but I have it far better than a whole lot of people who post here do.

I wouldn't pick anything different except losing all the drama with BM.

I wouldn't pick anything different except losing all the drama with BM.

I wouldn't pick anything different except losing all the drama with BM.

At this point in my marriage, I would not do this again. I'd stay far away from a man with kids and or an ex wife. I regret selling my little home.

I'd do again in a heartbeat. I love my husband deeply. To echo Echo, I would have disengaged sooner. But no way would I change being married to the love of my life.

Yes, a thousand times yes, I'd do it all over again. My SSs are grown now (22 & 20) & although it felt like forever that they would get there, they finally did ! They live 2 hours away and we see them maybe 4 times a year (vs every other weekend!) We now give them cash when we want to, and they are blown away when give them a fraction of what we paid BM every 2 weeks like clockwork. My DH and I are happier & stronger than ever. Nothing would make me sadder than the thought of not having DH In my life. What would I differently? I'd realize this too, shall pass & take things in stride.
Good luck !!

I'd probably marry DH again, but I would avoid meddling, fixing, or facilitating his relationship with his kids. I would also advise him not to engage in the expensive and useless custody battle for SD2, say NO to skids living with us, insist he pursue CS if they did, not spend one dime on them, and practice disengagement with both his kids and his crazy family from day one.

Nope I would not do again. My DH wasn't happy unless I was a doormat. And I will immediately stop dating a man who says his adult kids are his life or seems enmeshed, still interacts with the BM, or who gives an inkling as to being a mommas boy. Lesson learned the hard way.

No way in hell would I have married him had I known what was coming. Those three years were absolutely miserable. I got out asap but there was damage already done that I'm still working to repair. I will never sell my little house. It means too much to me. It's safe and peaceful. And i would rather be alone than live in misery with hateful people

I think about this everyday for the past 18 yrs and to answer your question no i wouldnt do it again 2 SD age 24 and 27 never wanted anything to do with me from day 1 ,kids of their own now and thought that would have changed them but no they now say he doesent care about the grandkids i could go on and on but id only depress yous more and as i write this my hubby is in tears over them again

differently? not a d@mn thing.

but i'm sure that is the exception for st.life, not the 'rule'!

If I had it to do over again, I would not have married my husband.  In fact, I plan to avoid anyone who has kids of their own when my marriage ends, and it looks like it's about to. 

I'd redo the past 20 years of my life but there are things I'd change both as a SP and as a BM of kids who had SMs. I like to think maturity mellowed me a bit and I wouldn't fight fights that I wasn't really a part of. And as a BM I wish I'd been less stringent. The problem was I was in my mid-twenties and over tired, over emotional, and over reactive. I made speed bumps where none needed to be and that made me a bit of a d!ck and I wish I'd let that go. 

I would have insisted a court order be in place before marrying my husband.  Too much BM drama.