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jojo68's picture

Last night BF snuggled up to me and we talked about overspending on Christmas which we are both guilty of so it was definately not an argument but just a talk. We talked about how we needed to start saving our money better and he said especially if we want to get married...he then told me that he and his brother had had an argument about getting married...his brother said that he was never getting married...it was only a piece of paper. BF told him that women want the ultimate commitment of marriage though. He then told me "I want you have my last name"....He has always told me in the past that he really wasn't that in to getting married which I accepted but I am old fashioned and think that if you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with someone that you should be married.

I am not really sure what to make of his comment....perhaps he is saying that he does want to get married in the near future or he was just telling me what he thought I wanted to hear because he thought he was in trouble. What do you all think?

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jojo68's picture

Ty for the words of advice...honestly I am not in any hurry to get married but I would like to know that his feelings are more for me than to string me along until something better comes along which is the way I have felt in our relationship sometimes because early on he was so "anti-marriage." I do believe that marriage is more than a piece of paper...but that is only MHO Smile

jojo68's picture

LOL...you said it...men are not complicated at all. My own insecurities cause me to make it complicated. Blum 3

burnet's picture

If you are thinking about money and how it affects marriage, consider going to a Financial Peace University class. You can find them at many local
churches or check online for a suitable location. It's a great way to get on the same page as far as finances go. My wife and I did this before we were
married. Second marriage for both or us.