I think I'm more irritated than anything about this. So this past weekend SD was here and H's Uncle's were in town so we had a mini family reunion at his Aunt's house. It was great- tons of BBQ, music, all the kids played and swam. Mostly immediate family, my parents and some close friends. SD knew we were having it and obviously told BM about it. SD never says anything on the way home from H picking her up, but always waits until she gets to our house and I'm there to hear anything she has to say. So she says BM asked SD to bring her home a plate of BBQ b/c she misses Uncle so-an-so's BBQ. WTF!! H & I didn't respond to SD when she said that. So the next morning I asked H before going to the party are you really going to let her take BM a plate of food home? His response was HELL NO!!! He said BM probably didn't even mean it. Well then why would she ask SD? If she really didn't mean it then she would have just said I miss your Uncle's BBQ. I don't know if I'm reading more into this then I should. I told H that to me that is just disrespectful for BM to do. She isn't a part of this family and never has been. Just b/c she popped out your child doesn't automaticly make her "family". She is just trying to stick her nose where it doesn't belong and get a reaction out of us I'm sure. The bad thing is she put her own daughter in the middle. Of course SD asks uncle X if she can bring some food to BM and he said yes. When we were leaving she remembered she didn't make BM a plate and wanted to go back in and do so. H told her no (which he should have done in the first place the day before)so she got into the car and started pouting/crying. I just don't understand this woman. Her and H broke up over 6 years ago!! This isn't the first time either. When H and I started dating 5 1/2 years ago when she didn't have a bf and two other kids she actually said she was going to drive 90+ miles to "crash" a family BBQ and pick up a plate herself. What are your thoughts??????