Sometimes I just want to scream at people
I'm so sick of seeing random hatred towards SMs. Even trying to avoid it, it pops up randomly. Facebook, TV shows, conversations with people.
Wtf do people want to force two people to love each other that don't? Why is it assumed the kid wants to be treated like a bio child to the stepparent? Why is it assumed that the stepparent is evil if there wasn't a magic transformation when they married? Why isn't being decent to eachother good enough for other people- even if its fine for the people actually involved? My mom has been with her boyfriend half of my life and I dont want him to pretend to be my dad. I get along with him just fine, but forcing a more intimate relationship on people then they want is weird and uncomfortable. Same with myself and SD. She does not want me to be referred to as her mom. I do not want that either. We're both in agreement on that - so why do others feel the need to redefine it for us?
- Jcksjj's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
Jcksjj
This is so true and annoying.
As Evil3 said above I am sure thats what people thought with my exSD. That I was somehow jealous of her and caused the problems. Sad part it was the other way around, that is why the entitled b*tch worked her magic and my DH left, more like I kicked him out, he ran back to BM and bitch SD.
Even if they know the skid is
Even if they know the skid is the jealous one its still SMs fault anyway. Because she should know to back off until she's out of the picture enough that skid is happy
I think people could never
I think people could never understand the level of dysfunction that a BM or skid can create in a home...on purpose...and even if they did, they would assume they SM should just put up and shit up.
Also, I often wonder if it makes people feel uncomfortable to hear that toleration without love is okay in a family because it might force them to confront the fact that they don't "love" everyone in their own families.
Good point. Or that not
Good point. Or that not everyone loves them. I do feel like alot of times it comes from people projecting their own situations.
And as far as the dysfunction - even on a GOOD day I hate having skid there just because its not as comfortable of a relationship. Can't completely let my guard down and relax like I can when its just my husband and kids there.
No one who has never been in
No one who has never been in a step situation can even begin to imagine the crazy sh*t that can happen with Skids and BMs.