When I first met DH, I knew that he has a grown daughter going to college. He was supporting her and trying to help her to finish it. He said he made a promise to his daughter that he will help her to the end (college). I agreed and thought he was a responsible father. Man, was I wrong. Now, a year later, she had finish her college, but still no job coming (guess who is fliping the bill). In the beginning our relationship, I thought I can deal with it. I mean she's not living with us. How bad can it be? Was I wrong! I thought she can final get the hell out of his pocket book. I was so wrong. I regreted that I was so blind by love. Even though, I can see this situation was not going to change, I though I was different. I thought he loves himself and I enough to take a stand by starting to say no to SD. I was so wrong. I am reflecting on my marriage, now. I realized that I am the problem in my life. I enabled him. Although I kept on telling him the truth about his behavior, there are no real consequences. I kept my mouth shut. I opened my mouth. I went to counseling. I went to support group. I did so many things trying to fix our marriage and dealing with his problems. He did not do anything. In the end, I realized that I was the only fool. I deceived myself. I am in this relationship by myself and requires minimal maintance and financial support. I gave all of me. He kept what he can so he can give to his daughter. I am not sure what is wrong with me. I need to continue seek help. Step parentins is not for the weak of heart. I don't think I can deal with that. I can't deal with a man, who does not love himself. I said so many things in our marriage. I am so tired to talk. I am done. Hopefull, now sicen he moved out, he will never come back. I am so tired of giving. He had sucked me dry. I have nothing else to give. Bare with me, I am going through stages of grief.