looks like i've joined the club of deserters
As if the struggles and stresses of a blended family and SK wasn't enough.
My husband thinks i'm stupid.
Back in august i found out he was having very inappropriate converstaions via email and phone with an old girlfriend. i confronted him about this and at first he denied it. only cause he didn't know i knew and had seen it with my own eyes. he ended it (yeah, right).He told me the converstaion had stopped and i tried to believe him, but after his first reaction of lying to me it was hard not to think about it. i hadn't checked the phone bills in 2 months hoping i didn't need to worry about my husband having an affair on me.
well yesterday while having a converstaion about trust my hubs got really defensive and said "well if you don't trust me i should leave." hmmm..... got me thinking. so i checked his phone bill and low n behold those calls had never stopped.
i'm heart broken that my husband would lie to me over and over and make me think i'm going crazy when really he's been lying to me since Aug if not before. For a man who harps on you about trust i just can't believe he expects me to belive him after he's lied and lied everytime i've turned around.
this morning after being up all night and throwing up (i have a very very nervous stomach)i dragged my ass to work for 1/2 a day. husband calls me and talks like nothings wrong then starts asking me again what my problem is. so i told him i was thinking about that old girlfirend of his. i told him i knew they were still talking. of course he tried to minimize it saying she calls him about once a week. i'd seen the phone bill and knew who was calling and how often. so another lie. when i told him i didn't belive him he said he was getting a storage unit and moving out. WOW! if our relationship means so little to you that you'd just walk away. SEE YA!
just sucks it's thanksgiving tomorrow and i have to see my fam without hubs. they will ask, which will make it worse.
PS we have no kids together, thankfully! but my DS10 has been around DH all his life and will be so upset. His own father is locked up.
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Men!!!!! When my Ex H was
Men!!!!! When my Ex H was doing this to me everyone said the magic word.... projection...
He was trying to make me seem like the guilty party, all the while talking to other women. Please take care of yourself and know that things do get better.
One can only hope!
Ugh IGT. It sucks because we
Ugh IGT. It sucks because we so often ignore our gut because we want to believe that the one we love wouldn't do anything to hurt us. I'm sorry that this has happened but I know you will get through it, you are a strong woman!!!!
(((hugs)))
Just be glad there are no
Just be glad there are no children between you who's lives will be ruined. You and your son will recover. HUGS and best wishes
Life is what you make it.
In my experience, men tend
In my experience, men tend to try to turn things around when they are caught. And if he is so quick to leave over this, something more than phone calls is probably going on. You deserve better. Try to enjoy your Thanksgiving.
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
i know you're right. my
i know you're right.
my reason to smile, DS is out of town till tomorrow. hopefully it will get better quick.
God will forgive me. It's his job.
~~Heinrich Heine
What is wrong with men??? I
What is wrong with men???
I agree that he was already considering and may have been making plans to move out anyway. There isn't anything you could have done differently. He was already looking outside of his relationship and just looking for an excuse to leave, without being the bad guy and saying "I'm leaving you for someone else." What a coward. He could at least have the balls to be honest with you.
"There comes a time when you have to surrender the idea of what your children could be to the reality of who they are."
yep that's what i think too.
yep that's what i think too. He's on unemployemnt and his truck got repo'd last month so i'm pretty sure he hasn't seen the girl in at least a month. but he just keeps lying.
i can't live with someone i don't trust. it's worn me down.
God will forgive me. It's his job.
~~Heinrich Heine
This guy was having an
This guy was having an affair. you caught him. I'm really sorry, but your son is better of without him. It will take some adjustment. Just worry about your son, sit him down and give him the heads up. you dont want him watching as your dh packs up to go. Way too sad for your son to watch that.
Tell your soon to be ex, in his face that you dont appreciate liars and a cheat. And that when he fell out of love for you and went to an old ex, have the balls to at least admit it, make a decision and follow through. Dont treat another human being like an idiot.
well so be it then. You are
well so be it then. You are right if he is so eager to write you off this is certainly an affair he is having--if not physically certainly emotional.
It is his loss not yours.
It looks to me like he was
It looks to me like he was awfully quick to throw in the towel! Makes me wonder if more was going on then just phone calls! It is interesting how he makes it out to be you that has the problem so that he can leave with a clean conscience! What a jerk! Sorry that your kid will have to go through the pain of losing him. Sorry that you have to go through this during the holiday season. However, you are better off without him if he is cheating on you! Some men are such selfish jerks!
That sucks and I'm very
That sucks and I'm very sorry that you are going throught this. I would look forward to moving on and living a life that you deserve; a life without a cheating husband. You deserve better than that!