Okay, my SD is 28. She didn't move out until I moved in 2 1/2 years ago. When DH told her we were getting married and I was moving in she ran crying to her room, called her Aunt C and told her she was moving to CA. (very mature of her, no?) She wouldn't talk to DH for days. Backstory: DH got full custody of her when she was a baby. She's not seen or talked to her mother since she was 22. Basically she's an Ice Queen, very closed off and her dad doesn't even think she's had a date in her life. Personally, I think she's a lesbian which is a big, "whatever". I truly don't care, I'd just love it if she had someone other than her dad to do things with. Our first Thanksgiving together we went to Aunt C's - when we walked in the door the SD came running up to DH, flung her arms around him, snuggled up to his face, turned, looking me square in the eyes, smiling quite evilly and said, "Hi Daddy!". I was so taken aback I just looked at her, probably with my mouth open. It was in such a manner that it looked like a long lost lover greeting her man after a long separation. So anyway, when she wants something that her dad and her both like (Hockey) she plays him like a guitar. Most recently, "Oh dad we should go for a long weekend and go see three games, spending two nights." Well, we're just getting back from a vacation that we're paying for that she and my daughter are going on. We're not going to have the money for an extended weekend in an expensive city. So I held DH to his promise to only go to two games this year. He was upset... thought it was because it was something that the SD wanted and I didn't want to do it b/c it was the SD's idea. Also said that when my D wanted something it was always a "go" and when his D wanted something it was "no". It truly isn't that. It was simply the fact that we will be getting back from a week long vacation that we'll be shelling out a lot of cash on. We can't afford a weekend hockey trip for three (DH won't go without me, However, that last game the SD will buy the tickets for and she will only buy **two**, leaving me sit God knows where by myself). This is in a town where the SD will only want to go to the finest restaurants. (she's acquired quite a high taste for expensive things that she can't afford) UGH I'm frustrated that she can pull his strings so easily but in all fairness, my daughter yanks mine too. However, he's fairly quick to point that out. I've been keeping my mouth shut - I don't know how to tell DH that his D acts like his 2nd wife and I'm the third wife/wheel. To his credit, he says this is "our time" and "fk them all" but it's really not that easy. Anyone else feel like the SD is the wife and you're in a competition for him?