when DH and ss try to "help" with chores....
Have you guys ever noticed that you do something by yourself for so long...when others try to do it, it becomes a complete mess?
I have been on a "dishes strike" for about a week...it used to be because I got home from work about an hour earlier than dh, I would do all the dishes and after they would dry i would put them away later that night. We don't have a dishwasher, and luckily our sink is not that big so it's hard to ignore the dishes without not being able to use the kitchen.
I stopped doing the dishes after a full week of cooking/cleaning/dishes with no help from DH. I made the mistake of waiting for him to "take his turn" and it never happened. So I decided the following week, I wasn't going to do it. Not surprisingly, the dishes started piling up.
Monday visitation comes and a few hours after dinner, dh decided he was going to do the dishes and ss was going to "help" him. Problem was, this led to ALL of the dishes having a "film" on them...and dh instructing ss on where to put the dishes (still wet) after they had been washed.
I never realized DH really has no idea of the layout of our kitchen.
Mixing bowls that had their own cabined...sure...lets put them with the pots and pans...that makes sense.
Pot and pan lids in a completely different cabinet then the pots with the baking sheets. The only thing they were able to get put away in the correct spot were the cups and glasses, and that was only because there were still some left in the cabinet so you could see where to put the rest.
It's not the end of the world by any means...I just thought it was funny.
I guess I've done the dishes for so long, Dh really has no idea where we normally keep stuff. We don't have that many cabinets in our kitchen, so everything has a strategic spot so you aren't doing a balancing act every time you try to get something to use.
Anybody else encounter this when dh tries to "help" with chores? 
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Personally, my feeling is
Personally, my feeling is that if I am doing something... I get to do it the way I want. I also try to bite my tongue when my DH does things...like load the dishwasher "wrong".. because he is trying to do the right thing. Now.. occasionally I will give him a hint... but mostly, I just try to accept the way he does things isn't the same as the way I would do them.
But, to answer your question. Yep.. sometimes DH and the girls would do something and leave almost more of a mess afterwards..lol
I grew up in a very southern
I grew up in a very southern family and the men in my family don't do things in the kitchen. The other day SO was looking for the bowls. He literally didn't know where our bowls were! I serve him every meal that we eat in our house... for 2 years we have lived there together and he didn't know where they were.... I teased him so much that he found out where everything is now *ROFL*
“If you have to dry the
“If you have to dry the dishes
(Such an awful boring chore)
If you have to dry the dishes
('Stead of going to the store)
If you have to dry the dishes
And you drop one on the floor
Maybe they won't make you
Dry the dishes anymore”
― Shel Silverstein
that's awesome! Again, not
that's awesome! Again, not complaining about it, just didn't realize that by doing it so much on my own that they wouldn't really know where things go lol We only have four cabinets, so when dishes get put in different cabinets it becomes a balancing act
My DH likes to "help" when I
My DH likes to "help" when I'm cooking. He turns off burners I'm still using, cranks up the heat without telling me so things get burned, and double seasons things I've already seasoned so that it's too salty to even eat.
After years and years and years of me trying to explain what he is doing isn't even remotely helpful, I've managed to limit his meal prep assistance to stirring meat.
SO helps with the dishes and
SO helps with the dishes and knows where the all go.
SS not even close. We have to stand behind him when he is doing the dishes to be sure he is using hot water. He says the hot water hurts his hands.
I think they sometimes do it
I think they sometimes do it badly just so that they’ll never have to do it again.
Just like the Shel Silverstein poem above, maybe if I screw it up I won’t have to do it again.
We just moved and I made DH help pick what goes where. This way he has no excuse.
LOL. I get it. I do try to
LOL. I get it. I do try to keep my mouth shut though. And he's learned to never let it go more than a day or I freak out. I like my kitchen clean...I've given up having a "my clean" kitchen to a "clean kitchen." But to this day I'll find, with the small coffee cabinet, bowls. There's ONLY mugs in there. Or the measuring cups with the drinking glasses. I just move them now.
But I make him re-clean dirty dishes. I don't understand why he thinks less soap is better. And why washing the oustide of lids, bowls, pots and pans is not necessary.
It's just hard because we
It's just hard because we literally have only four cabinets for dishes, and they aren't that big....so when things are stacked all over the place it's really hard to get things out because you have to remove 4 things to get to the one thing you need