Ok-I did it. I took the dh back. He admitted he had a moment of temporary insanity-he had stopped taking his meds a couple weeks prior and was essentailly overcome with stress and had no clue what to do. He tried to find ss a place to go-bm wouldnt take him, he called 4 or 5 therapeutic boarding schools and they all want about 30,000 a year. So, yep, he's stuck with him. I again thought about whether I wanted to give up my marriage and have my kids lose their father for one punky 14 year old kid. No, not really.

So we moved them back in. Installed keyless entry locks on my daughter's door and the door to the basement (where our room is located). SS currently has a mattress only on his floor-alhtough today I think he was earning back his dresser and bed frame :).

They've been back about 2 weeks now and actually it's been going fairly well. We had taken ss to the doctor and changed his meds and his new ones are working much better. He has not given me sass even once. We actually worked our way up to leaving him home with the other kids for a few hours on Saturday and there was no issues or problems at all! So that was pretty amazing.

The kid is still failing almost everything at school; however he is not failing as bad now-it would be nice if he could make at least d's. He has received one detention since being home-on a day that dh forgot to give him his meds.

Dh doing much better. Not worrying about him so much-letting him accept natural consequences for his behaviors, but not letting him have privileges if he just wont do what he's told. He has restarted his meds as of a few days ago and seems to be doing pretty well.

I was pretty pissy, however, as the bm called last Friday-now, this is the same woman who dh called a few weeks ago and reported all the problems ss was having and her response was that she was not taking him back, but hey, he could call her sometime if he needed to talk. So, on Friday she called and wants to pick him up at the end of the month for his bday-along with two friends and keep them for the weekend in her town and rent some video game place out. Now, she has not seen him in 3 months. She had not even spoke to him in months. She pays no cs. I told dh that I'd rather he not go-if it were up to me. I think its sickening that she wants to play some sort of supermom when she doesnt care what sort of problems he has just wants him on "special days" so she can pretend to be his mom. Which of course he would enjoy so he will leave wishing he could live with her which doesnt matter because she is not going to let him; however he will not take this out on her but rather me and mine. So, yeah, he's not going. I feel like if she wants to be his mom, that's fine, she can do that-but that means she needs to help support him, spend time with him, have some sort of committment to him rather than just seeing him every 3 months or so whenever there's a special occassion!

Although sometimes i think I might be cutting off my nose to spite my face-maybe they both would have an awesome time and she would change her mind about letting him live there again? She says absoluely not, but who knows?