I swear my dh is bipolar!
Ha! I think I actually entitled a past blog the same thing. Sorry just venting. He was in such an awesome mood last week. He was fired up about going on a mission trip for Church, really becoming strong in his faith, working out daily-laughing all the time. So nice to see and this week he's an ass. Granted he is out of his meds (he gets them thru the mail and they have not yet arrived) so I guess he is not feeling quite up to par. I also think he is having tons of anxiety about sil's hearing on Friday. He told me earlier today eh cant get it off his mind-I asked him in what way and he said he was glad-looking forward to it-but frankly I dont believe him. I went home for lunch and the front door was locked with him inside. You have to understand we live in a super small community-we never lock our doors-not at night, not when we leave, I leave my car keys in the ignition in my driveway!! When I asked why it was locked he was defensive although mentioned the other day that he fears that someone connected to sil will try and retaliate.
I am trying to hold onto my patience and not snap back at him because I think it will make matters worse. So hopefully venting here will get it off my chest.
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Good luck with that, its
Good luck with that, its awful living with a bipolar. The good times are fantastic but the lows are awful, horrible and will drive you insane right along with them. Get educated on personality disorders, because someday, you may need help of your own to cope with your partners PD.
So so true Carley. It is a
So so true Carley. It is a constant emotional rollercoaster and the spouse of a bipolar ends up with so much anxiety, always waiting for the bottom to fall out. Even when it is good, you can not relax because you are too preoccupied with worrying about when they are going to crash and it is Hell on Earth again. My husband is bipolar, has borderline personality disorder and I think he has NPD as well. OP, what meds is your husband on? My husband is finally on a cocktail that has helped more than any before. I never relax though, then you throw in skid, who is crazier than DH and I really have problems.
Oh, he's on a bunch. Um,
Oh, he's on a bunch. Um, Concerta-for his adhd and also helps with his traumatic brain injury. Wellbutrin and Effexor for depression. And Abilify as a depression kicker and it works well to reduce his anger.
He's actually made a lot of progress in reducign meds. He also has degenerative disc disease and has had multiple surgeries-he has not taken pain meds since 2010-which is great but I do know he has daily chronic pain. He also no longer takes anything specifically for sleep as he has that lined out.
If my dh completely stops his meds he can become very paranoid-he is still a bit paranoid even on the meds-but its more like when these situations arise with his family
My Dh is on Topamax, which is
My Dh is on Topamax, which is a migraine med but off label use for mood stabilization, metoprolol, which is a blood pressure med but off label use for antidepressant, Seroquel, antipsychotic, and Lexapro. I am going to ask his Dr. to prescribe the Abilify because I have heard a lot of good things about it, I am glad to hear that it helps your Dh's anger as that is what DH needs to keep in check as well. DH has little impulse control and it is so frustrating.
It's probably the lack of
It's probably the lack of meds.
I used to get my meds through the mail. If it is the same place, they have an auto-ship that can be set up. If he is taking his meds as the doc ordered, he shouldn't run out.
Of course, that is a lot of "ifs" in there.
He gets them through the VA.
He gets them through the VA. He has to call every month. I try and help him remember but sometimes. Have a lot going on- having an ADHD/tbi sufferer be responsible for remembering to call in his meds is kind of laughable! We need to come up with a system to make sure it gets done.
I don't really think he has bipolar. It's ADHD/tbi/PTSD. Not that that's any better- just to clarify. He told me while ago he laid down for a nap and thought of his family showing up and walking in on him. I figured that's what was bothering him and combined with his lack of meds he's just struggling today.
Does he have a smart phone?
Does he have a smart phone? Or Microsoft Outlook? Is he on the computer a lot?
There are apps and/or programs that can be set up to remind you to do things automatically so you don't have to. I am sure that being a person who has suffered a tbi, it must be frustrating to have to rely on someone else like that, even if it IS your spouse.
My DH gets his meds thru the
My DH gets his meds thru the VA and they are pushing him to do all of his meds via internet.