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Submitted by hismineandours on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 7:13pm

Over something small. Things have been ok here with ss14. He's really annoying but I try to overlook that sort of thing because it's not a major thing but right now I feel like kicking his ass. Kids were off school today. Tonite dh and the boys had a church function. So when I get home tonite I catch ss in the act of pulling the wet clothes out of the dryer and throwing them on the floor. I stop him and he tells me he has no clothes to wear tonite- I tell him that's hard for me to understand as he's been home all day. He was too busy hanging out with our neighbor to wash his clothes. Last nite he was also too busy with his friend he had over. I made him put all the clothes back in the dryer snd tell him he can't do that. I go downstairs. After they leave a few minutes later I go back to find- yep you guessed everyone's wet clothes on the floor. Man I'm pissed. I specifically told him not to do that and hr deliberately defied me. So of course his clothes are now laying wet on the floor- but I really want to punish him for this. He has done it before back when he was just here eowe. He would bring his damn dirty laundry with him and throw everyone else's stuff out. I told him then that his stuff isn't anymore important than anyone else's and when u throw wet clothes on the floor they mildew snd when I find them I have to wash them all over again. It is rude and wasteful. Any ideas on an appropriate punishment?

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 8:06pm

I don't know what a good punishment would be but SD15 likes to take my clothes out of either the washer or dryer and throw them on the floor so she can do her laundry. It drives me nuts because I am not one to forget my clothes in there. Sometimes she will wait for the dryer to end and throw my stuff on the floor even if its damp still. Then she puts her stuff in. I come to get my clothes and they are damp on the gross floor. Thanks!! She uses her line "I didn't know" it drives me crazy.

Now I just make sure to only do my laundry while she is at school.

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Submitted by anabihibik on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 8:15pm

He could have to wash his clothes by hand and line dry them if he can't appreciate the convenience of modern day appliances by using them appropriately. You might also consider having him fold everyone's laundry. And, if it isn't folded properly, it can be redone.

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Submitted by Brady_Bunch_plu... on Fri, 04/20/2012 - 9:46pm

Make him do everyones laundry tomorrow.

All. Day. Long. No friends. No activities. No fun.

He did it on purpose and it was a complete jackass move on his part. Openly defiant. That would make me livid.

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Submitted by gonzoroach21 on Wed, 03/28/2018 - 2:56pm

WTF is wrong with these children. Like maybe a 4 yr old tantrum but a 15yo teenager? One idea I came up with, taking all of their clothes with the exception of one or two outfits. One pair of shoes. It's extreme but if the SS continues to abuse his own property (leaving it all over the place, or out right throwing it on the floor) then he should have to earn that back through simple chores. dishwashing, vacuuming, sweeping mopping. I came across a similiar scenario w my SS. Where he was doing he laundry late and i went to open the dryer and a few pieces of his garments fell to the floor. He was walking to the laundry room so i asked him to take his clothes to his room and not wash/dry clothes for the rest of the evening (super loud). so later on I go to the kitchen to grab some water and find some of my clothes thrown over the kitchen floor. see my earlier post:  https://www.steptalk.org/forum/parenting/teenage-stepchildren/over-my-he...

Like what in the absolute FFFF. I was furious. Such a lack of respect and an out right challenge. I could have ripped his head off. 

They are going to challenge us. test us. question us. ect. We shall prevail. smh. trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel myself here. 

totally understand your frustration and anger. Super valid. Take a deep breath and try to be rational in how you deliver consequence. I know as the SM / SP the pay off won't come until much later in life. But the idea is to try to be consistent, stay calm, try to be reasonable. Our job isn't to make their life a living hell (although sometimes i find myself wanting that) but to try to help mold them into decent, responsible human beings. Best of luck!