very little about the DIVORCE of the idiot's parents...but of course, now AUTISM
It makes me SICK TO MY STOMACH that now the whole "autism" thing is coming to light. Of course, the kid might have autism, but it has NOTHING to do with this. On the other hand, his parents WERE DIVORCED, his MOTHER had 3 freaking guns in HER HOUSE (with a mentally disabled child) and the ahole didn't kill the father...nope, just the mother. So I hope the freaking news doesn't start saying this is an autism thing, when it actually seems to be related to a shitty mother and divorced parents.
http://www.mediaite.com/tv/connecticut-shooter-allegedly-developmentally...
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I completely understand where
I completely understand where you're coming from. My professors used to tell me (when I pursued a degree in psych as a second major) that people like to use disabilities as a crutch, and as an excuse as to why their children can behave the way they do. It takes away personal responsibilities. What my professors who were practicing psychiatrists wanted to do was to teach them how to behave acceptably DESPITE their disabilities.
It sickened them to see how many parents limited what their children can do all because they got a diagnosis, no matter how well meaning they were, or how they thought they were protecting the children.
Anyway, it's sad all around but yeah, I dislike it when people throw a disability as the end all reason for certain behaviors.
I don't care what disability
I don't care what disability he had there is no excuse for what he did. And if the parents let him use that as an excuse his whole then that was a factor too. It was their responsibility to make sure he grew up being able to everything anyone else can just differently. My son has high functioning autism and I never let him use it as an excuse not to be able to do something or excuse his behavior.
It just meant he had to do things differently to acheive the same goal.
I talk about a shitty mother
I talk about a shitty mother because honestly, I think ANY mother who has 3 guns in HER HOME and a "disabled child" is a SHITTY mother.
You have no idea what the
You have no idea what the situation was, you have no idea what kind of mother she was...all we know now is that she is now DEAD! There are so many people tonight dealing with grief beyond most of our comprehension..we all need to stop blogging and speculating and pray for everyone affected by this tragedy!!!!
If severe ADD can be
If severe ADD can be considered a "disability" then I guess I'm a shitty mother too. Or at least MORE shitty than this mom, because we have WAY more than 3 guns in our house.
Not that it's here nor there, but they are all also locked up, clips out, in a huge gun safe, and only my DH and I have the combination.
Although I'll also admit, two of those guns belong to my severely ADD child, who is quite an eagle-eye when it comes to marksmanship. He can absolutely disintegrate a clay pigeon at 300+ yards.
I haven't kept up on all the details of the story, because just reading about the generalities depresses me. However, I will ask this (not to be a bitch, but just asking...) if the kid took 5 bags of lawn fertilizer and turned it into a "bomb" (aka Oklahoma City) and blew up the school, would the mom be a shitty mom for having fertilizer in her garage?
Honestly? It doesn't bother
Honestly? It doesn't bother me a bit. But did you miss the part about how they are locked up in a huge (and by that I mean 6 feet tall and 5 feet wide) gun safe that took 4 men to unload and is securely bolted into a 24" cement floor? The only two who know the combination are my DH and I.
My son is actually considering joining a gun club to be a competitive marksman... he's THAT good at age 12. And I support him in that.
I go back to my original premise about gun control, and that is this: You can legally "ban" all the guns you want. Outlaw everything, but they're still accessible on the black market. Gun "bans" only keep those things away from people who want to obtain them LEGALLY (and in MY case, responsibly). Even going so far as to "ban" the manufacture of automatic weapons in the US will not be a cure to this ill, because other countries manufacture them also, and THOSE will find their way to an American black market.
I have a permit to carry a weapon. I went thru all the proper channels, buy my guns from reputable dealers who require me to fill out forms; my fingerprints/full handprints are on file with local, state, and federal authorities. I signed a consent saying they could do a FULL background check on me prior to granting me my permit. Because I have nothing to hide, nor do I have any mal-intent where my guns are concerned, it doesn't bother me a bit. Wouldn't bother me if they made me wait 7 days to purchase a gun either.
Do I like automatic weapons? No, not really. I personally don't have any use for them. But I understand the reality that there are many people out there who are HUGE gun enthusiasts who do own them.
I'm just saying that the unfortunate part is that where there is a will, there is a way.
This could be my SS13 in 11
This could be my SS13 in 11 years and I'm dead serious. He has been babied and allowed ot do what he wants for 13 years bc he has very disturbing angry outbursts if he doesn't get his way.
They actually had a meeting at his school about his behavior this week. The school doesn't want him back (3rd school) bc he fights, threatens and bullies every day. The school recommended a psyche eval out of state. Parents don't want and mental health pro said other options should be explored.
So their response is to send him to another school, regular public middle school that he will get specialized help.
This does nothing for his social skills. He has ZERO friends. Still believes in Santa, so he's very immature and lashes out when angry.
Parents are in denial.