I keep hearing about older mothers more at risk for kids with developmental delays...however, I also read about prenatal-postnatal stress and the impact on the fetus/kids...and their development...

I personally believe that although there are MANY reasons for the developmental delays, STRESS is a MAJOR contributor...in addition to genetics, other enviromental factors...

With that said, I believe the reason the older women have higher stress and this greatly affects our kids...I can personally say that being married to DH and all the drama that I had to endure while I was pregnant/after I gave birth, greatly affected my stress levels...and I do believe it is a CONTRIBUTING factor to the issues my child has.

We hear it all the time, "moms, do not stress out...stress causes problems in your kids while you are pregnant, etc...", yet NOBODY dares discuss the stress that the crazy-BMs and our DH's and our in-laws caused us while we were pregnant and blame them for the part they played in constantly having us living in stress, where most of us would have very little stress if it weren't for them...

So, do any of your kids whom your DH is the father, and you had high stress before/after pregnancy have any developmental delays? My munchkin is diagnosed with autism, ADHD, etc...