UPDATE-well, it seems DH is a bit off...

PS - she has KNOWN for 3 weeks, but decided to wait until the day before his birthday to tell him...nice, huh?

By the way, I do agree she is as selfish as it comes. Heck, his birthday is tomorrow and she hardly ever, if ever, even calls him for his birthday. Anyway, when DH got home I thought he would be a bit freaked, sad, etc. I gave him a hug and told him to not worry much, that I would be here for him. He thanked me. I asked him what the plan was, etc. as he stated that his "sister" was taking her to her house for a 2nd opinion from other doctors, but "they were waiting for his sister to get airline tickets, so not sure when that would be". Then although I really thought, "oh, your sister? how long will that take, huh? maybe they are just calling asking for money...hmmm" I said, "well honey, you know that we MUST take care of us first, as we have been down this road before...but thankfully, we are doing ok now and if you will feel better helping her out by buying her tickets, instead of waiting for your sister to find the tickets...hmmm...then, it's ok by me. Of course, all things will need to be discussed, but I don't want you to feel that we have all this money in the bank and that your mom is sick and you can't help her if you "need" to." His reply? "Nope. I am not buying a thing. She didn't ask, I am not offerring. Now if there is some medication or something she needs and she asks me, I will gladly ask her where I can purchase it, who I can pay directly, etc. and we'll figure out what WE can do...but I am not giving a dime to my sister and unless I am the one talking to doctors, etc. I am not giving our money away". :jawdrop:

I later asked him if how she got his number since he had "claimed" she didn't have it, only his brother...he said "his brother gave it to her". When I asked him how his brother took it, btw, his brother lives close to his sister in the US, he said "oh, he doesn't know. My mom doesn't want to WORRY HIM and tell him because he might get on a plane and come stay with her..." :jawdrop: WTH? I told him that his brother has a right to know as much as any of her other kids...he said he also told her that and she made him "promise" her that he "would not tell his brother." Interesting, huh? He told him that he would not call him to tell him, but that if his brother called and asked him if something strange was going on, etc. he would not lie and would tell him. Which of course, makes me wonder.

Oh, but wait, it gets better! Yes, when he arrived home, after our hug and me telling him that I would be here for him he said..."I need to go get that prostate exam done" because you know, this can be hereditary and I need to keep an eye on it...I said "WTH???" Ah, yes, crazy MIL probably fed him that bs line...I bet you anything. Which might be why he seemed a bit "not to care" as we spoke more and more. Anyway, I reassured him that liver cancer from everything I read is normally caused by Hepatitis C, B or cirrossis? Not that you can't get it in other ways, but she has had that "hepatitis C" for years, or so she claims, so that is probably where she got it...Oh yes, by the way, she claims it was C because of a transfusion, but amazingly enough, nobody ever talks about what kind of surgery she had that needed a transfusion...hmmm...Whatever.

So, there you go. I did read that it is almost always deadly, 3-6mos...hmmm...I have seen younger people, ie. Crazy Sexy Cancer girl, who have changed their ways and done rather well...but, we'll see. My job is to help him. As far as her, honestly, I am starting to think this might be another ploy...hmmm...or maybe she is truly sick, but who knows...I don't. He said he asked her where his sister planned to take her and she didn't know...she did tell him that she was leaving "before mother's day"...how convenient, huh? hmmm...Normally either the crazy sister comes here for mother's day or she goes there, so that's interesting timing too.

Anyway, whatever. Thanks to all for your support. I hope that it all goes well and that my husband does whatever his heart tells him...I don't want to feel that he didn't do something because of me...so I will support him within reason.