even the facts meaning physical copies of bank transfers etc showing cs paid on time and lawyer docs, sd won’t have an objective brain and will buy whatever bullshit story bio mum sells her. Even when the facts are clear.

my 2 sd’s are brainwashed as, sd23.5 told her dad that he went to witch drs to do black magic against her mum.

the facts were that these kids knew their dad was busy at work and playing golf. If he had a choice between playing golf and black magic against crazy exwife- it was golf 100% of the time. If it were going to witch drs against exwife and spending time with me - it would always be me.

when you’re a narcissist, you always need attention on you to make you important when you aren’t. Sd’s have existed in hubbys life way longer than me and even they can’t see right through the lies. To top things off sd’s made those allegations minutes after telling daddy that they knew mummy lied...

unfortunately some are just so far down the stupidity hole they can’t snap out of it

I recently deleted a lot of old emails (I'm bad at that), and much of it was back and forth with DH about court stuff, SS's miserable school grades, etc.  Ugh, I can't believe we survived all of that nonsense.  So glad to be on the other side of that.

SS is 19 and he seems to have zero clues about BM. Of course, right now he's 100% dependent on her, so he can't really afford to see the truth.

EVERYTHING!! This is mostly due to the  fact that the Girhippo is still on the payroll aka CS for YSS stb 17.

Skids in my case still believe Chef is a deadbeat so even showing them proof may cause them a moment of cognitive dissonance,  but that is all.   As in other aspects of life, if you've been brainwashed to believe certain things are true,  you would have to question your entire earlier existence as well as those who have done the brainwashing.   For most, this is much too cumbersome.

child support money train has ended and how she is suffering financially now from her bad choices.  I only get glimpses of it from SD20 when she mentions how North Korea whines incessantly about how much debt she has and how broke she is.  Younger SD turned 18 and graduated in May so it's not really been that long but already she is strongly feeling the pain of losing that $1000 a month plus half of everything.  SD20 turned 20 on Friday.  She asked me to get her some water color art paper for her birthday and some stuff for a hamster.  She says she wants a hamster.  Ok.  She said no cash cause North Korea would just take it.  Apparently her dad wrote her a check for $200.  It was written to SD20.  The check was altered.  North Korea wrote "and North Korea last name" after SD20's name and deposited it in her own account.  Said she needed the money to pay her credit card bills and that SD20 lives in North's and Stepdaddy's home rent free.  While this is true, they pay no rent.  The house was owned free and clear by stepdaddy before he ever met North Korea and is just indicative of North's financial problems.  SD20 also said stepdaddy, who isn't even 50, is showing severe memory problems.  He will repeat something to her six times and she is worried he maybe getting alzheimers disease.  North relies heavilily on his income from the mechanic shop he owns and works at.       

 I swear she thought child support in Florida just continued as long as she wanted it to.  She would say stupid things to DD5's dad like, "You are going to pay me for as long as those girls live with me and are done with college!!!!!!!!"  She was always getting bad legal advice from her hair salon clients.  She never went and saw a real lawyer so she was under the impression until older SD aged out that she would just be getting a crap load of money for many more years to come and stupidly just kept spending and spending and spending and running up her credit cards.   

I hope the BM in your case also feels the sting of having no child support money anymore too!   

Part of me wants to hand SS14 the flash drive I have everything on to him one day. Maybe when he is 21 and has had some time at college (fingers crossed- away from BM). It probably won't do anything and will just send him running faster to BM, but to just show him... 

Same we had reams and reams of paperwork, plus a court website that showed all the proof to negate Meth Mouths stories, we even offered one time to show Spawn.  She vehemently refused, which just proved to me she knew what a lying piece of crap her mom is.  

DH finally got rid of the bulk of it all a few years back, personally I would have loved to have it bound, written burn book on it,  and sent it anonymously to Spawn, but that’s just me.