First of all thank you to all of the posters who responded to my last blog. I went over them with my DH and he was able to see things not just from my perspective but also you very smart ladies/gentleman.

Our newest saga continues. On Sunday, DH, DD5 and I were driving to view the house we recently put a contract on (hell yeah!). I was starting to freak out because I didn’t remember if it had a pantry or not and after living in a cramped apartment this was a must have on my list. While we were walking around the back yard my DH receives a phone call from BM. She had called to tell DH that SD15 is coming to live with us because she “rolled her eyes and wouldn’t eat the lunch I prepared for the whole family. SF is leaving shortly with her because we just can’t handle her anymore.” DH responds with “Ok we are actually in _____ city (closer to them) we will be happy to meet SF here. What time do you think he will be here?” This response from DH was apparently not what BM was expecting. She honestly thought that DH would side with her about their disrespectful 15 year old and that he didn’t want her either. BM tells DH that she will call him back.

At this point we figure it will be about an hour so we will hang around the new city for awhile and do some shopping and wait to have lunch until SD15 arrived. We also decide to drop DD5 off at my Mom’s for a bit so we can talk with SD15 about what happened and start figuring out if she is really coming to live with us. During this time DH and I are starting to hash out issues that will come with SD15 living with us such as going to court to make it official, enrolling her in school near us, coming up with expectations of SD15 etc. We also both knew and discussed that there is no way that SD15 is going to be able to come to live with us. That would mean no CS, no free babysitter and no housekeeper. However, if this is what SD15 really wants than we of course will make it work.

An hour goes by and after repeated attempts we still hear nothing from BM or SF. Finally, after almost 2 hours we get a text from BM “She is going to spend a week with you as a cooling off period”. Ok, where is she? We have wasted a good part of our day waiting for SF and SD15. Another 30 minutes goes by and DH is blowing up both of their phones trying to find out what the hell is going on.

SD15 calls us 3 hours later to tell us what happened. Yes, she wants to come live with us because she cannot handle the crazy at her BM’s house anymore. No, her BM won’t let her leave now. It all started because SF got in her face and yelled at her for not respecting them by rolling her eyes and refusing to eat something nasty that BM made for lunch. DH at this time asks to speak with SF (while steam is coming out of his ears) before DH had a chance to say anything SF admits that he lost his temper and he shouldn’t have yelled at her and from now on he is not dealing with any type of punishment for SD15 because he just can’t do it anymore. DH proceeds to rip SF a new one. SF actually seemed to take it very well and understood why DH was pissed. He apologized to SD15 for what he did. DH then asked to speak with BM. SF tells DH that she has locked herself in the bedroom and won’t come out. DH asks SD15 if she wants him to come and get her. SF and SD15 agree that things have cooled down and it got out of hand and things are ok now. DH still asks to speak with BM when she comes out of her room.

DH and I decide that no, SD15 is not coming to live with us and before the night is over SD15 will have her phone back, have cheer camp 100% paid for (she was supposed to do 50% herself), and whatever else she wants because there is no way that BM can survive without her and that this was all a scare tactic on SD15’s part.

We were 100% correct in our guess. SD15 called DH last night to tell him exactly what we predicted. BM will do anything she can to keep SD15 with her. SD 15 provides her only source of income and free babysitting. SD15 knows that BM can’t survive without her. I think that SD15 knew all of this when she asked to be taken to her Dads. She plays a good game. DH is starting to open his eyes to her games and manipulation. I have been telling him for years that this is going on and he is finally seeing it for himself. SD15 knew what she was doing the whole time.

DH and I also decided and we will see how well he sticks to it is that no more BM calls are taken. All will go to VM and we will decide what is important enough to deal with at the time. She wasted our entire day Sunday for nothing but drama.