Someone please take SD....my patients has run out
Normally, I can pretty much let SD's antics roll off my back and normally when we have her for vacation ...WE ARE ON VACATION. So three weeks doesn't seem so bad..
not this time...she is at home with us....all the time
Ugh......
Given that she is at home..and I'm in the office she is supposed to "watch" the dogs. You know..make sure they have water, let them in and out, play with them a bit etc. SD's version..trap them in her room all day so she can watch Degrasse High and play computer games.
Needless to say when I come home for lunch..they are dying to get out of there and need to go outside. Not to mention these dogs are 80 pounds of high energy dog..they hate being cooped up all freaking day. I mean when I got the dogs from SD..she was putting on her fake eye lashes and the dogs were going bonkers trying to get out of her freaking room.
Got home from work yesterday...dogs had no water. I mean the bowls were bone dry...as in hadn't had any water all day. Not good for the seizure dog as he gets thirsty and needs a lot of water to breakdown the meds he is on. Que me being pissed...give the dogs water and seizure dog drinks like he has been living in the Sahara for the last year. He went through an entire bowl and wanted more.
**f****cckk....
This morning I go to get something out of the fridge freezer to find it covered in frost.....another *F****CKKKK*
Why you ask, well SD went and got ice cream from the basement freezer and rather than returning it to the basement freezer.she stuffed it in the fridge freezer and then the door didn't shut all the way. So...the fridge freezer has been running for who the f*ck knows how long...because she is too lazy to go back down the one flight of stairs to the basement to return something to its rightful spot. (Our fridge freezer isn't that big..hence the big freezer in the basement)
SD's towels that DH made her wash are still sitting in the basement next to the dryer waiting to be folded....they have been there for 4 days. What she is using to dry her @ss after I shower..I have no freaking idea.
Finally, SD is pissed at work because they took her off the register (having your drawer be short 5 times in a row will do that) and she is now on dishes. The horror.....so she was really crabby after work yesterday. Oh joy....lucky for me I went to bed when she got home.
Normally I can just ignore most of this....but right now...she is ON MY LAST NERVE....not only on it..BUT STOMPING ON IT.
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breathe, just breathe. then
breathe, just breathe. then in all ohnesty, I'd call a family meeting. Don't accuse her, that will get her nose out of joint. Just bring up concerns "we" can make sure never happen again. Ask her what she thinks can be done to keep the dogs properly on her watch and put a big assed note on the freezers reminding people that $$ wasted is money no one gets to enjoy and will hamper any fun stuff because the $$ has to be rerouted to cover the wastefulness.
I'm probably not completely right here so please put my thoughts at the bottom of your ideas.
Sometimes
You have to REALLY spell things out, and then repeat often. Write it all down. In big letters, so expectations are super clear.
SD16 does the same thing - she will often "forget". Or say "I didnt know". Etc.
omg...yes...
I fooorrrgooootttttt....or I didn't knooooowwwwwwww
Seriously....she can remember how to make freaking hot pockets though...
I just went home again at lunch and SD had just gotten up
and apparently DH laid into her about the dogs..because she was downstairs with them and their water bowls were full.
However, now she wants to meet up with friends.and DH told her not till her room is clean, laundry put away and she is packed for their trip tomorrow. Ah...queue up the whining and that she will pack LATER. Its always LATER....Dh told not going to happen..she had all week to pack and she will PACK and clean before she goes with friends.
Oh and he told her absolutely no jammie pants as regular day wear. She can wear them to sleep in but the rest of the time she has to actually wear clothes. SD is not happy about this..I on the other hand smiled a small smile of joy..
I'll never forget the one
I'll never forget the one summer DH had about had it with OSD(then12) and her attitude. This is when he started parenting a bit for the first time. She had had a friend spend the night and her room was an absolute disaster - really bad. He told her that before she left to go to that friend's house for the afternoon to clean up her room. (note that her friend was STILL here too)
She refused and yelled and screamed at him.
He told her to get her rear end on the couch and not move until she calmed down. Friend was watching this all with HUGE eyes (one of OSDs friends I liked actually - felt bad for her). They sat on the couch a bit. DH was in the kitchen. I was at this point doing yardwork out back. A little while later I saw OSD and friend leave out the back door. A few minutes later, DH asked me if I had seen OSD. Yep. Well, room was not touched and she had just left - friend lived in walking distance.
DH called friend's mom (I loooooove her parents too - they totally understood my situation). They show up at friend's house and that mom told OSD no way, you get yourself back to your house and do what your dad asked, goodbye. Made her walk all the way up a huge hill! LOL. She was crying and so mad.
The bad thing is DH caved and "helped" her clean up her room. Blowing all of what could have been a lesson in responsibility.
I laughed because I would be that parent
Oh you want to shirk your responsibilites...nope...not being part of it. Go home..
My own kids were not parented like SD....and would have gotten their @sses handed to them
I’d be all over her like stink on the shit she is.
Not letting the dogs out: Take the door off of her room and cut her access to Degrasse High and games.
Not watering the dogs: Take the lashes, makeup, etc.
Not returning the ice cream to the proper location: Lock all of the refrigerators.
Not folding the towels and putting them away: Add 8 hours of chores to her daily list.
When she bothers and cries, tie it to the natural consequence of having to do dishes at work instead of working the register. Be stupid about completing your responsibilities, enjoy stupid consequence.
Lather, rinse, repeat.
Apply consequences where they induce the most misery.