So last night about 9pm my phone rings...its BM. First thought is BF has his phone on silent, she couldnt reach him and called me. I answered she doesnt give me a second to say I'll grab BF and  she goes into this whole sitation. ( my other post BM is currently living with BF's parents). SD's grandfather was taking his meds and SD2 took one of his pills. Accidents happen, I get it...but 3 adults in the house and not one person was paying attention? She handled it well called the pediatrician and then posion control. They said to monitor..she got all of that out and I handed the phone over. I watched my BF go from calm to anger then calm and almost speaking to her in a gentle, weird soft voice. I thought I was okay, i know this is going to happen, this is only the begining of the phone calls, texts etc. I get it and I was grateful that she felt comfortable enought to call me to get ahold of him. I did however feel a little weirded out with how gently he was speaking to her. I dont get that side, I always get the tough love hard ass. After he gets off the phone he asks me whats wrong whats my problem...A- I was just as worried as he was because I do love that little girl and B-that I really will have a lot to get adjusted too with all this ....if you cant handle her calling delete her phone number. Nothing consoling just the anger. Which why do not get that same respect. Maybe it was because he was upset with the irresponsibility? I didnt say it in a condescending manor. His response hurt. I can handle it, I have been handling it. I talk to BM all the time, in fact she gave me an update this morning, apologized if she pissed him off and gave me an update on SD. I have it good with her. I appreciate her willingness to work with me and she the same. Its just going to be an adjustment...why don't they get that.