Angry son
I'm not sure how to address this as my father passed away and my mother sold their house and my mother lives with me and my oldest son help me clean up the house as they were kind of pack rats and my mom wanted to pay him she first started off very low so we came to a decision to pay him $25,000 my son hired three other guys to help out and then my son told me he wanted more he wanted 40,000 and was arguing with me about it and I was talking to my other son about it and he texted him and told him he was being quite greedy so now my son that wants the money is stopping me from seeing my grandchildren as like I explain to him this is not my money it is your grandmothers money not sure what to do thanks
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First, that is a HUGE sum.
First, that is a HUGE sum. How about starting with a house sale. Where I live, you can virtually empty a house in a couple of days if you decide to sell everything off. You might as well make money from it rather than spend a fortune.There are also companies here who will empty the house AND do the cleaning afterwards but they have the right to everything that they remove from the house.Anything like that where you live?
$25,000 that 1-800-GOT-JUNK
$25,000 that 1-800-GOT-JUNK could have done for probably $15,000?
Pay him the $25,000 and tell him you're disappointed that he's trying to bleed his grandmother dry. Then tell him that, while you'll miss the grandkids, you won't be threatened by him withholding them to milk your family of more money. Tell him you love him even though you don't like him much, and he's welcome back if he ever changes his entitled attitude. Until he can do that, he can stay gone.
How long was this supposed
How long was this supposed clean out supposed to take? If it was a large property with a lot of outside buildings etc... and might include some cleaning and repainting/handyman stuff... "maybe" 25K is totally not out of the realm of possibility.. if it was going to include cost to repair the home for resale.
But, if this is something that would take maybe a week or two? 12K a week for 4 people less maybe a couple thousand or so for dumpster rental etc.. is still a LOT of money for this kind of work.100-150/day should be sufficient for the labor portion.. maybe more if there is some skill to the work they will do.
What I might do at this point is go get yourself a couple of independent estimates of what a professional company would pay to do the job. Tell your son that he can have the job if he matches the lowest bid.... If he doesn't want to do it for that.. well.. that's his choice, no one is trying to cheat him.
Call one of those trash removal companys
They advised on TV. 1-800 junk . Or check the internet. I sm sure it will not be $20,000
You can do a yard sale. Like selling for what ever they offer. Just to get it out of the house. Also there charity that do picks up for needy people
My mil has a horder house and
My mil has a horder house and the quote for the clean up is no way near that amount. (It is in the thousands, but not $25000).
I would ignore him. He is holding your grandkids from you and demanding a randsom of $15000 from his grandmother's money. That is despicable behavior.
If you have a contract with him for clearning the house I would look at the termination/cancelation clauses. If you don't have a contract I would change the locks on the house and hire professionals to finish the job. Pay him a reasonable fee for what has been completed if you want to, make sure to include a reciept.
Hopefully eventually he will come round and let you see his kids. If he doesn't then that is his choice and nothing to do with you.
Sorry he put you in this position.
Don't give him another dime.
Don't give him another dime. Hire a company to come clean it out and be done. If he is going to withhold your grandchildren over this you have to back off. You can send them cards and hope they get them but this is emotional terrorism and if you play his games this will just continue.