Visiting for the holidays, and I have to deal with her crap right off the bat.

First she decided it was going to be an all out spoil-a-thon for SD. She not only bought her hundreds of dollars in gifts and gift cards, then she of course took her shopping, to the movies, out to lunch... excluding me and my kids... fine. My kiddos and I were very grateful we didn't have to participate and did something without them.

Then when we come back she passive aggressively tells me and my kids what a boring time we must have had. I smiled and nodded, just dying to tell her that we would have had a much, much, much worse time accompanying her and her constant accolades and bending over backwards for SD.

And in true MIL fashion, she let her spoiled little boy (BIL) smoke in her house with the kids right there.

She's constantly making passive aggressive comments about what a wonderful relationship with BIL's fiancee that she has I just smile and nod... (I truly don't care, MIL just wants BIL's fiancee to crab about BIL in front of her so she, in turn, can crab about FIL)... I feel sorry for BIL's fiancee, she has quite a bit of learning to do.

I'm able to see her passive aggressive crap more clearly now that I have completely disengaged with her, I don't contact her, Dh does all that. My kids are not hurt when she spoils SD anymore, I try not to encourage them to have a relationship with "grandma" anymore, and I've tried to make visits rare.

Still bugs me though, this is the last time I make the trip out to see them this year... I can only handle it once a year, and it's not for them... it's for my DH.