Today DS5 has been invited to a playdate at a friends house (this type of thing is a rear thing for us as we are still new to the area and people here are very clickly). I had to decline it as SD15 wouldn't want to wait or go home by herself. But after the stunt of the weekend (I know, I don't forget things easily), I was thinking that why should DS5 miss out making friends because of her.

So when we are in the car going home.....

Me: Could you please find out how much does it cost to get the bus home?

SD15: Why?

ME: Because I had to decline a playdate invitation today and I don't want DS5 miss out this opportunity to make friends.

SD: I can't, I wouldn't know what to do.

Me: Well make sure you find out, I am sure it wouldn't be that difficult. (by the way she used to take a bus everyday at school in UK. And here there are School busses take you from the school and drive to certain locations - so not that hard)

SD: Well I can't, besides I don't have any money.

Me: That is why I asked you to find out how much it costs so I can give you the bus fare so you can go home when we need to stay behind.

SD: I will not take any money from you

Me: In that case you need to walk home

SD: In this heat? I will not

Me: You will have to find a way or decide what to do, coz I am not going to say no to his friend next time

SD: Why can't you drive me home anyway?

Me: It will be quite inconvenient for me to wait for you to get out of school (which we have to wait 15-20min everyday as her school finishes after DS's), drive you home in this traffic and go back to where we come from.

SD: how do you know where the play ground is and maybe it wont happen again?

Me: it is not a playground, it is a playdate at someone's house. and given we are one of the rare families who lives 15-20min drive away from school. it is usually very near the school.

SD: As I said I won't take a bus as I will not take money from you. You'll say "I owe you some money"and I don't mind waiting.

Me: What? I am not lending you money, I am paying for the bus fare so I don't have to drive you around.

........
by then we get home I get out of the car to get the post. She has a letter from M-I-L for her birthday, DS asks does he have one. I say no, so gets upset. I say don't be sad Nan writes to SD always but his grandma (my mother) sends him letters and parcels as well.
SD says "Nan sends cards to the family" (which is not true as last 2 out of 3 letters we got from her was for SD and she even had prezzies while DS5 had nothing).
Then we get home, as usual she gets out of the car and slams the door as usual...

Still think that she thinks I am her personal driver. I was 10 when I could take a bus by myself. she is 15 and telling me that she won't. She thinks she is above everyone. F that I am not doing that.