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Submitted by giveitago on Sun, 12/23/2012 - 9:21am

Give me strength! SD 19 is texting DH and asking if she can come here until she gets back on her feet. She says she is at a friend's house right now, and that she might have to do 3 months jail time? I did not even ask what for! I am not harboring a fugitive, DH is on chemo and we have way more than enough to cope with right now. SD and her twin brother are 19. They are both a mess, both as bad as each other but SD got caught out more often...sociopaths! I do not want that crap in our house any more. SD was in a halfway house, maybe they kicked her out? Two group homes, when she was a juvenile delinquent, could not handle her and they BOTH kicked her back to the judge! This girl was dancing, turning tricks, selling drugs and had a pimp as her boyfriend.
Bad enough that SS 19 is still staying here, he's minus a load of laundry though...he left it lying in the drier and I trashed it. He's been severely warned twice. DH told him that if he used a laundromat he'd have to deal with it, and WAIT! DH also asked him what would happen to his clothes if he left them in a drier at the laundromat.
SS and SD do not get along, they would fight and squabble and it would come to blows. There's still blood stains on my kitchen ceiling from SD taking a knife to SS and SS having to overpower her!
Hell no to having them under the same roof again!!
Depression is a side effect of the chemo with DH so I am venting here, I am quietly letting him make the right choices for all of us. DH is at the point whereby he can no longer exert any control over the twins, they are 19, and he's really not willing to put iether of us through hell again. DH got to the point, after I disengaged, of seeing just how 'cute' his little cherubs really are.
The chemo will only last three months more, by that time DH will need to rebuild his strength and get back to normal weight. The SKids really do not care what's going on, they are sociopaths, it's all about them and what they want!
I believe that, deep down, we are primarily self centered but those two take it to the EXTREME!!

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Submitted by giveitago on Sun, 12/23/2012 - 9:42am

I am between the devil and the deep blue sea here...I believe he'll say NO and I am NOT going to be the one to take the blame for it...trust me they will look for someone to blame when the answer is NO.

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Submitted by oldone on Sun, 12/23/2012 - 11:17am

Why do you care who gets the blame?

SD sounds like a toxic POS. Both you and your DH need to erase her from your memory bank.

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Submitted by giveitago on Sun, 12/23/2012 - 6:29pm

Ever had THREE sociopaths team up on you? SD, SS and BM,the seeds do not fall far from the tree there! Ordinarily I would not mind what they thought but DH is torn apart, heart broken, it's his daughter. I am not going to make waves when he's sick. I asked DH today what he would do if she came and it did not work out, he told me he'd drop her off at a shelter! I reached my limit with them a long time ago but blood is thicker than water and DH has to reach his own limit, which I think he has done now.

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Submitted by dontcallmestepmom on Sun, 12/23/2012 - 11:41am

Go to the adult forums and look at my post about the "Message from BM."

Good Lord, I thought my DH's kids were bad...yours are beyond a nightmare.

She DOES NOT COME THERE. Tell her no, absolutely not.

I don't care who blames you, chastizes you, whatever...

Even if your DH was in good health, you cannot have her there.

I won't let DH's kids in my home, because I cannot trust them, among many other issues. My life would be hell. So, will yours. YOU DO NOT DESERVE that.