I have a 16 year old SD who has lived with us full time for about 3 years. She does what she wants, goes where she wants, stays out as late as she wants. She only helps around the house when she has company coming over to stay the night with her. She is failing school and her dad thinks he is her best friend. I told her father she has enough friends and needs a father more. He thinks he is dong the right thing. He spends lots of family time with both of us and realy loves his daughter. He just needs to step up.

I have two Daughters in their 20's of my own and so I have made all the mistakes and have learned by them. Even my daughters are shocked at what she is being allowed to do by her father.

I am very worried about her and only want the best for her. We get along pretty well and I don't really blame her for this. If I was 16 and had no boundries I would have taken full advantage of this. I have tried to talk to BD with no luck. Usually he just gets angry with me.

I wish I could go to her mother and let her know what is going on with her daughter. She would not be very open to anything I say.

So I am begging for any help anyone can give me.