Need advice... Daughter wants to move in with BF becuase new SF is a "jerk"
So I am a single mom and my oldest 13 wants to move in with her dad, she feeds him all the information that goes on at our house. whenever her SF yells, or does anything she doesn't like. It is like being prisoners in our own home. Texting and cell phones are getting to be really annoying.
She wants fun mom back. She said I have changed, and that she shouldn't have to live like "this" Life is not as bad as she makes it out to be. So he's not the best at his attitude but he loves the kids and would do anything for them, all he wants them to do is clean there room when he asks, or clean up after themselves, ect...
I miss fun mom to, but it is time to get real, 5 years of being unhappy on my own letting my kids run all over with me is enough. It is time for me to settle down and be happy.
Am I choosing my man over my kids? do I let her move in with her dad...
Help... I am so confused. and teenagers are so hard at this age!!
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The same thing with my BD13, she "hated" it at our house, she moved back to dads last June. I was devistated, as her BM it is my duty to be there for her, everyday, not weekends!!! One of her reasons was because of my now husband, they fought like cats and dogs, and now that she comes here EOW, we all get along great! My BD and i's relationship has blossomed like never before and this I am grateful for!!
Now, her BF has moved in with a woman who has a dtr and she wants to move back. I fought for her to come back, dad said no, and again I am glad that he said no, we would probably go back to square one, with the fussing and what not. She is 13, in my opinion she has a voice but sometimes it's just not the best thing, she doesn't have a very good selection of friends here, was slacking in school and what now, now she is getting awesome grades and is in sports!
My advice to u would be to weigh the pros and cons, good luck!
BTDT
She is going to play you as long as she can. We made a rule in this house, which is that you can go, but you have to stay one year. No matter what happens or how miserable they are it is mandatory to stay one year. Otherwise they move in and out whenever they get an attitude.
Great idea Sparky. I am sure
Great idea Sparky. I am sure once she gets the option she will choice you anyway. She may be playing you a bit.